Duke Sateriasis Venomania

One thing I observe a lot is people that either are in or observe the radqueer community love to police peoples reactions to situations.

I think a lot of it comes from a place of concern. People will see someone getting hurt and defending themselves in a way that doesn't look like traditional defense, or perhaps even not defending themselves at all, and tend to fall into the thought that "oh, they're not standing up for themselves, so I should stand up for them instead!" This is especially common in NA users, I believe, because it is something we are taught in school(<- bodily canadian) for basically as long as we're old enough to get those little speeches on bullying(that are honestly terribly ineffective). One of the lessons from those is that you should stand up for those that can't/won't stand up for themselves.

While I do understand that perspective, I’ve seen people go about it aggressively. Seeing the anon’s follow up did make me feel bad for getting aggressive, but this isn’t the first time people have tried to tell him how to react.

Short answer, "saviour complex" is the default settings for most beings. /lh gen Longer answer, a lot of people are incredibly prone to being aggressive in situations like this because most people don't fully understand the difference between "standing up for someone" and "being hostile", so they will do the latter when trying to do the former. A lot of people will also disregard requests to stay out it because they will see it as a victim being too scared to accept the help rather than someone trying to handle things on their own. I have had to remind myself many times to stay out of things like this(not just on tumblr but even with our own friends), so I can, more easily understand the people that do step in; I am naturally a hostile person when it comes to matters of harassment, but I know that's not what everyone needs to be able to recover and find peace, so I try my best to just let things be unless someone is actively seeking help. Not everyone has the capacity to look the other way, though, which is how you end up with the anons trying to tell him what to do. Obviously, this does not make their behaviour okay, and I'm not trying to defend this behaviour, simply... explain where it comes from so it's easier to understand and prevent, if that makes any sense at all. It's 7AM and I haven't slept, you'll have to forgive me if anything I say doesn't make any sense anymore.

One thing I observe a lot is people that either are in or observe the radqueer community love to police peoples reactions to situations.

I think a lot of it comes from a place of concern. People will see someone getting hurt and defending themselves in a way that doesn't look like traditional defense, or perhaps even not defending themselves at all, and tend to fall into the thought that "oh, they're not standing up for themselves, so I should stand up for them instead!" This is especially common in NA users, I believe, because it is something we are taught in school(<- bodily canadian) for basically as long as we're old enough to get those little speeches on bullying(that are honestly terribly ineffective). One of the lessons from those is that you should stand up for those that can't/won't stand up for themselves.

rent lowering gunshots that I should not have to fire but here we are IF YOU THINK BODY(NATAL)ANIMALS CAN CONSENT TO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH BODY(NATAL)HUMANS, YOU ARE NOT WELCOME ON MY BLOG IF YOU THINK BODY(CHRONO)MINORS (SEE: UNDER THE AGE OF 16) CAN CONSENT TO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH BODY(CHRONO)ADULTS, YOU ARE NOT WELCOME ON MY BLOG.

Exactly!!!

bro jay’s dumb ass is back again with a new account called eternal-pr0phetic

PLEASE REBLOG THIS IS URGENT AND ISNT BEING TALKED ABOUT ENOUGH

ATTENTION RADQ COMMUNITY

Why does everyone use Nat/NatalID as "something they were born with/developed naturally/etc no matter if they ID with it or not" when the og coin is just a replacement for CisID - ??

I would like to point out that this post specifies NatID/NatalID as something you are bodily or naturally. That specific wording is why. We needed a term for specifying what someone is naturally, regardless of how they ID with it, for things like chronoage, where it doesn't matter if you ID with it, it's important to have that information somewhere because people can get in actual serious legal trouble. And CisID wasn't working because a lot of people have started just using CisID for things that they weren't born with/developed naturally/etc but just consider themselves as having successfully transitioned to.

Short answer? Because we have an unnecessary amount of prefixes as it is, to the point that any given user will most likely have a new prefix that you will have to look up. Rather than having two labels that mean the same thing and coining a third, adding to the prefix problem, it was easier to adapt the second to use a new meaning. Long answer? People started using it that way for the above reason(I did at least) and from there it caught on to the new meaning, regardless of how it was intended to be used when it was coined, leading to a lot of people not even knowing the original was coined with any other intention, hence nobody ever really thought to make another term, since nobody really knew it was needed, thus continuing the perpetuation that the current usage is the actual definition of the term. Kinda like how pro-c doesn't actually mean pro-c anymore because the community decided collectively that it didn't and that it was just the same as pro-cc now.

Even though I disagree with the amount of prefixes being a problem [which i think may be just my hoarder ass' bias] I do see your point with the 2nd half

No problem !! We are also very autistic and had a lot of struggle with the change in definition of pro-c, so we absolutely get it and we're glad we can help people realize that it is an autism thing and not an inherent problem with the change itself! :)

Why does everyone use Nat/NatalID as "something they were born with/developed naturally/etc no matter if they ID with it or not" when the og coin is just a replacement for CisID - ??

I would like to point out that this post specifies NatID/NatalID as something you are bodily or naturally. That specific wording is why. We needed a term for specifying what someone is naturally, regardless of how they ID with it, for things like chronoage, where it doesn't matter if you ID with it, it's important to have that information somewhere because people can get in actual serious legal trouble. And CisID wasn't working because a lot of people have started just using CisID for things that they weren't born with/developed naturally/etc but just consider themselves as having successfully transitioned to.

Short answer? Because we have an unnecessary amount of prefixes as it is, to the point that any given user will most likely have a new prefix that you will have to look up. Rather than having two labels that mean the same thing and coining a third, adding to the prefix problem, it was easier to adapt the second to use a new meaning. Long answer? People started using it that way for the above reason(I did at least) and from there it caught on to the new meaning, regardless of how it was intended to be used when it was coined, leading to a lot of people not even knowing the original was coined with any other intention, hence nobody ever really thought to make another term, since nobody really knew it was needed, thus continuing the perpetuation that the current usage is the actual definition of the term. Kinda like how pro-c doesn't actually mean pro-c anymore because the community decided collectively that it didn't and that it was just the same as pro-cc now.