women w undiagnosed BPD are traumatic and draining and remain undiagnosed because they are deep in their victim mentality
Always going on and on with their self-pity as if they’re the only ones who have trauma. it’s always a trauma Olympic w them. BPD is just failed narcissism due to the instability
they don’t “feel more deeply” like it’s a superpower, they are deeply dysregulated, and will latch onto anyone to soothe them, anyone but a therapist. they want to be a victim, so they are not looking for solutions. And always in crisis
Then they become hard to cut off because you know how unstable and unhinged they can be in the face of rejection — even though they’ve done nothing but take and drain.
my advice is, stay away from women who get familiar too fast especially with the oversharing. friendship should be approached the same way w dating, slow and w discernment
