days sure are passing

yes

I think the appeal of the male protagonists in things like Heathers and Labyrinth and Lisa Frankenstein is partly because... they take the female characters' emotions seriously. Like I'm not saying that they always make the best decisions about helping, but they take their girls seriously. Veronica is stuck with her image as a vapid party girl when she's slowly beginning to deeply loathe herself and those surrounding her; Sarah has her privacy dismissed by her stepmother simply because she's older than her toddler half-brother and shouldn't want to be selfish for once; Lisa is expected to just stop grieving the deeply traumatic loss of her mother because it's time for her to start playing happy families as a normal sister and daughter. And JD and Jareth and the Creature all listen. JD encourages Veronica to break free from what's expected of her and stands with her when no one else will. Jareth appears and offers to fulfill Sarah's unrealistic fantasies with magic. The Creature devotedly listens to every word Lisa says and protects her from anyone who has hurt her. Yeah, JD kills three people and has Veronica forge fake suicide notes to cover it up, and Jareth kidnaps Toby with the intention of turning him into a goblin, and the Creature goes straight to murder as his method of protection (in particular using methods that might even retraumatise Lisa), but that's all for plot reasons. There wouldn't be a story if there was no conflict. The fantasy is found in the way they listen when no one else will, and how the female protagonists have their negative emotions taken seriously when everyone else dismisses them.

this blog is now only for possums and me yapping about my childhood in the tags i guess

and Jareth. of course

Years of personal growth can be unraveled in 2 days at your parents house

what language did you learn in school and can you actually speak it?

i bring an “excluded since childhood” vibe to the function

one thing that sucks in tandem wrt being fat and/or being physically disabled is a lifetime of being the downer no fun allowed friend just because of your body being the way that it is. can't fit on that amusement park ride can't keep up walking pace with the group can't navigate rough terrain with a mobility device etc. you try to even lightheartedly poke fun at the ada violations in a space or the seating you won't even try to sit on because it's clearly got a capacity of ~100lb and no matter what you get the weary wish-you'd-stayed-home stare right back

all of which is to say like I Get It, you hate narcs, taking things slow makes you feel like an old person, whatever, but if you can stand to show your fat and/or disabled friends a little bit of grace and patience irl it will make a lot more difference than any number of disability awareness month or body positivity infographics you could share. what sucks even more than having to sit things out or make extra effort to seek accomodations for things is silently forcing yourself through discomfort or pain and refusing to seek those very necessary accomodations because in the moment it's worth avoiding the sneering, rolled eyes, and visible contempt of people you care about