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reads one book per week

is ahead of her college assignments and readings

is top of her class

is hyper feminine

has manners, grace, poise and elegance

is always put together: nails, hair and outfit always on point

listens to jazz and classical music

is extremely cultured

seeks validation within, not on other people

has flawless skin

cooks healthy meals for herself and is not a sweet tooth or impulsive about food

Shoulders back. Head high.

No begging. No fear. No shrinking.

Because when Heaven backs you, nothing can block you.

Shoulders back. Head high.

No begging. No fear. No shrinking.

Because when Heaven backs you, nothing can block you.

Any VALORANT players among my followers?

I’m not much of a fanart person, but I knew I had to make one of Neon depicting her in her hometown Manila. As you probably already know, cultural representation is very important to me, which is why I’m glad that Neon was added into the game (even if I’m not a Duelist player).

This is not only fanart for a video game, but also an expression of Filipino cultural art. How much of Manila’s architecture and other local details can you recognize?

Play it - it’s a looping animation!

Going From a Fixed Mindset to a Growth Mindset

Lesson #1: growth is not linear. You will not improve drastically overnight. As I’ve stressed this before, things take time and consistency and concentration.

A fixed mindset is basically a belief that the person you’re born as - your intelligence and talent - are fixed. They cannot be changed, no matter what.

Science has shown that this is not true. It’s 100% possible to get smarter over time and with dedicated effort.

This is what a growth mindset is - believing that you can be better over time, and that your current level of intelligence and talent is temporary.

People with fixed mindsets are insecure, and it shows. Fear of failure; taking constructive criticism to heart; feelings of jealousy when someone they know is doing well… we’ve all known a person like this, and been this person ourselves at some point in our life.

Growth mindset is therefore the opposite but the effects are as grounding; it can help battling anxiety, depression, burnout issues, behavioural issues and so on.

I understand that a lot of you don’t have people in your life with a similar mentality of personal growth. I’m therefore reopening my Discord. My followers can meet, connect and help each other out.

Now, how does one transition from a fixed to a growth mindset?

Here are some things I think could help:

1. Detaching yourself from the definition of failure

If you’ve already decided the outcome of a certain situation without even trying, then you’re still stuck in a fixed mindset. Things like “there’s no point in me applying for that job because I don’t have the skills and I won’t get it anyway” - applying for that job wouldn’t hurt, even if you don’t get it. Stop limiting your opportunities that you never know could actually work out. A growth mindset person will always try to make most of the opportunities they have.

2. Not getting attached to any outcomes

Don’t get attached to favourable or unfavourable outcomes. When something goes well, have gratitude in your heart but don’t let it get to your ego. Life is about constantly learning. Don’t get attached to compliments and don’t get disheartened by criticism.

3. Actively working on yourself

You can learn a language at any age. You can start learning how to dance or sing or ride a horse at any age, if you’re doing it for the pleasure of learning (getting into competitive stages could be challenging if you’re not young). Someone who works on themselves has a growth mindset.

4. Stop self depreciating yourself

If I see one more IG bio that says “I’m so boring uwu” I will literally throw hands. Stop talking shit about yourself. Classic fixed mindset case. It’s childish and people pleasing behaviour.

5. Stop the comparison game

Stop resenting the people around for the good work they do in their life/ if their life is easy. We all have our challenges, whether we show them publicly or not. The more you work on your inner peace and inner self, the less you’ll feel the need to compare yourself to someone else. Jealousy is a disease and a sign of a fixed mindset.

6. Appreciate and thank yourself for being you.

If you’re nice to your mum, siblings, friends when they need your support… you can be nice to yourself too. Growth mindset does not come from berating yourself.

7. Recognise mistakes and take accountability

Admitting that you’re wrong is never easy. However, I’ll always have respect for someone who can admit that they messed up, rather than someone who will make up stories to justify their antics.

8. Provide yourself with at least 3 productive self-care hours a week

Self care here doesn’t mean skin care or hair care. I mean brain care. You feed your brain good things that it needs to stay calm and ever-growing.

These could include: brain games, mediation, a hobby, watching an educational documentary, doing a short online course, reading… anything that’s good for your brain.

9. Stop being a chameleon

Have you ever met those sort of people who will do anything to fit in? It could adopting that group’s mannerisms, thought processes, opinions… now, to an extent, that is normal and subtle. However, when it starts going too far to a point where you can’t be yourself anymore, thats a problem. In my opinion, that’s an example of not being able to practice your growth mindset publicly.

Privately, you may be growth oriented - but it needs to reflect in your words and actions. If you’re holding yourself back in doing certain things because you’re afraid of what other friends will think of you, you need better friends. Embrace people who have a growth mentality.

10. Using social media for better purposes

As we’re approaching a new year, I’m gonna need you hunnies to seriously step things up a notch if you want to bag the life of your dreams in 2023. No more half-arsed manifesting, sometimes-do-affirmations, sometimes-forget. Do you really want that Pinterest board life you’ve been wishing and waiting for or do you want another year watching others thrive while you're stuck on the sidelines? 

Now is the time to get it together once and for all and make 2023 the year of ENVY. And by that I mean you live a life so fucking INCREDIBLE that it would make other people actually hate you. (I know that sounds incredibly toxic, and that’s not the energy we promote, but I got to stir up that fire in your belly so you know we are not coming to play this year). EVERYTHING, and I mean E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G is there on the table for you. Everything you desire. You just need to align with it. It’s truly that simple.

Here are the two steps.

Step UNO. You carve out a minimum of 30 mins of your day, EVERY SINGLE day to get into the flow and FEEL. You’re re-programming all those old raggedy stories in your mind that have been keeping you stuck with a new upgraded 2023 winning version. What are your old stories? What broken record is playing on repeat in your mind holding you back from your dreams? Get crystal clear on what your shackles are and break free from the old you by feeling into your new life. The more you feel into your desires, the more neural connections your brain makes with this feeling and hardwires this into your reality so the 3D has no choice but to respond. 

Firstly, you need a blueprint. You need this written out. This a first person statement of the new version of you. 2023. Go into fine details. Write as much as you can about the new you. How does she spend her morning, who does she spend her days with, how does she feel each day, what car does she drive, how does she deal with conflict, where does she live, write as much as you can. Play some beautiful music as you write, burn a little candle or incense for aroma. This is a pre-new years declaration of the woman you truly are. You need to sign and date it. This little declaration is putting out the new version of you into the universe. You want to keep this safe as this is something you can reflect on when it's time to share your success story.

Secondly you need images, a vision board something you can see everyday that can become hardwired into your brain as your new reality. As you look at the images you need start feeling. Each image should evoke a feeling. And as you visualise and feel, on repeat each day - your mind is creating a path for you. Situations and circumstances will align with what you think and feel. You’ll also have your pain points, feelings that constantly imprison you every time you try to succeed, probably the same feelings and thoughts that have prevented you from winning in 2022 but it’s a new fucking year and you’re about to break free from the old mindset that’s kept you caged for all these years. 

Example: If you’re manifesting love, but every time you meet a guy you feel hurt and abandoned to the point where you are constantly re-playing old stories with new men, you’ll need you to try extra hard in those 30 mins each day to feel the opposite. You need to hardwire the new feelings of being cared for, being loved, feeling safe - everything the opposite of what you currently feel. You need to get so familiar with these new feelings of being desired and chosen by a man so that your whole being is completely flooded with the new story, so much so it completely drowns and suffocate the old tale you've been telling yourself, so it has no space to breathe and plague your new life you’re creating. 

Step DOS: Now, once you're in the driving seat, the universe gonna test your little ass and start sending you signs. You might have an interview for your dream job out the blue. Do you go back to your old basic bitch thinking of ‘oh, I’ll never get that job because I am so stupid I don’t even know why they're interested in me, meh meh meh’ or do you show up as your 2023 baddest bitch of the year and OWN the interview and bag the job? So look out for the signs and tests. And remember when you’re being tested your old programming is gonna want to re-emerge with new strength even though you been drowning those old thoughts. But the test here is how much do you truly love yourself, how much effort are you prepared to put in to OVERWRITE the old story? As you get tested GO HARD on the FEELINGS you desire. IGNORE the 3D. If you’re getting rejected from jobs PERSIST. If you’re attracting low effort guys, PERSIST with your dreams of love, do not settle. Again for those who didn’t hear in the back THE 3D MEANS NOTHING, persist with your desired feelings. It's like playing Mario Cart and you need to get to the next level. Break free from the old story with the new programming to get to your next level.

FINAL NOTE: