I wrote this for me, from me...

GIVE THAT MAN TIME! I cannot emphasize enough how important the time is for a man to reveal his true self. The avatar men present when they first meet you cannot be sustained for that long. It's an Oscar winning performance. As relationship gets deeper, you will see his true character, he will reveal himself.

ABSOLUTELY NO HOUSE DATES/ SLEEP OVERS. If he lives in another country (this is how I slipped) he books a hotel PERIOD. Do not let that man into your home unless you are prepared for the outcome. 

DO NOT BE FOOLED by the new spiritual wave of men. This one got me, just because he is a believer, does not mean his actions are that of a respectful man of God. A man that protects women, a man that does not fornicate with a woman who is not his wife. Most men claiming faith, do not lead with spiritual actions. Let his actions speak for themselves. Judge him by his fruits.

FIND OUT WHAT HE IS AVAILABLE FOR. A man will pursue like his life depends on it, but what is he pursuing you for exactly? Find out early that way, you can prevent essential wasting of time. Finding out he is not over his ex, is not ready for a relationship, or ready for the things you are is something you determine as early as possible, because believe me when I say, men will WASTE YOUR TIME, the big IF here is IF YOU LET THEM.  

DO NOT BE FOOLED INTO THINKING HE IS THE ONE. When you’ve been single for a hot minute, you’re locked in, praying, reading, gym, focused. And then you meet someone who seems like everything, I mean literally EVERYTHING you have been praying for. You connect like a jigsaw puzzle. He makes you laugh so hard. He prays with you. He looks at you like a lovesick dog. Girl, don’t trip. Don’t drop your standards. And absolutely do not drop your knickers. And back to the first point, you allow TIME to reveal his truth. 

I don’t have someone to talk about right now, so I thought of you.

I stopped dating for 3 years because I wanted to concentrate on my studies and because many men disappointed me in the talking stage.

Last week a man on instagram texted me and I thought maybe I give it a try again. I thought he was very kind, so I agreed to meet him. It was very casual just a walk because I also didn’t want to go on a long dinner date. This was on Friday. It was very lovely, he gifted me a rose and asked if I want to meet again maybe for dinner next week. After that he texted that he liked me. On Saturday he didn’t texted me the whole day. In the evening I posted something and he reacted in that story asking where I’m going. Again disappointed because I expected him to text me in the morning like before. Then I looked at his following, and he just followed on Saturday alone 8 new girls… I wanted a sign from god if he isn’t for me, but I’m still kinda sad, that again someone didn’t take me serious. I thought maybe he felt a little bit inferior, because I work in law, and he is currently looking for a job. I don’t want to judge people and their circumstances, so I wanted to give him a chance, maybe honestly out of desperation I don’t know.

Hey sweetie, I can feel the frustrations in your words. As you know you don't plant a seed and keep staring at it and affirming it to grow. Instead of leaning into friction and frustration here's what you're going to do instead. START PRETENDING. Little moments, glimmers, do you remember as a child you would dress up? You would pretend you were a shopkeeper? You do that right now. You imagine a day in your life, your dream life, and you start adding elements of this into your life. For example, you're a billionaires wife, you go to the designer store and try on all the clothes, take pics, have some fun. PRETEND. Your desire is to live by the ocean, but you only have an ugly lake in the local park? Go sit by that ugly lake and pretend its the most gorgeous ocean your eyes have ever seen. Smile, imagine, breathe it in. You want to be married? Go create a wedding playlist, and dance in your bedroom with your headphones, eyes closed as if you were celebrating with your girls that you finally are married!

Do you see how you can add little glimmers. And I can promise you it works, I did this when it was my dream to buy an apartment in central London (without the budget). I would walk down those streets, pretending I lived there, looking at the Porsches, pretending that it was my car. I stepped into the world of make belief.

And another point. Are you actually ready to receive what you are desiring? Are things in order? Are you ready? If your dream life arrived tomorrow, would you be ready? Or would you feel less than because you still dress and feel like the lack version of yourself? Would you be able to HOLD what you are asking for?

Imagine your intution is like following a GPS, its your gut feeling that directs each step but you continue to ignore it. You continue to take a left when you’re guided  to take a right, the more you do this the more you go off course. And yes of course you learn some lessons along the way, but maybe you’re learning lessons that you never needed to learn? The continuous monthly cycle of going off course is holding you back. It's keeping you in the wilderness, when a short journey becomes a long detour because you couldn't follow to your GPS.

So I need you to be more aligned in the granular, this is how you move forward. LOCK IN. LISTEN. Don’t be afraid to say no. In fact, get comfortable saying no. Say it often.

You not only do it to yourself, but you do the world a disservice when you choose things that are not for you. 

Recently I accepted an opportunity that I wasn’t sure about and guess what I had to heal/ recover / process being in the wrong place. I had no business accepting this misaligned opportunity, I thought ‘what’s the worst that can happen’ (it was worse). It was misalignment, it was being somewhere you are not meant to be and it feels so off in your body. 

You don’t chase the apple. You pull the apple with mass. You grab the apple from the tree. Through presence, through identity, when you become the person that has that life, your universe will adjust accordingly. Magnetic fields get stronger with density. When your habits, thoughts and actions beliefs are aligned you become dense you become weighty you become irresistible.

Firstly you need to remove the distractions like your life depends on it, because it really does. Every timeline jump, every extreme shift in my life started with space from the world. You need to be able to hear from your source, you need to be able to hear from God.

This is first and foremost, because who is leading you? Is it your ego? Your insecurities? Things that are not in alignment? Without this clear channel and direction you will risk moving forward on a path that was never meant for you. This clarity is your Google Maps. But the thing about Google Maps is it only gives you immediate directions as you’re on the journey. Day by day, so in the same sense, locking in requires you to tap in to your internal gps, to access daily directions you receive from God. 

What does this look like? 

Daily silence: Sit and listen to your source for a minimum of 10 mins but ideally 20 mins - 1 hour per day. LOCK THE FUCK IN WITH YOUR LISTENING. 

Yes you might not hear anything at first that’s okay, the important thing is your show up. You keep showing up. You will start to receive guidance, and it might not come in that moment, it might be something you see on social media, a word that pops into your mind later in the day. It might be a conversation, a new connection you meet.

Reflect on how the masculine is being mirrored back to you. How do men show up in your dreams? Do they ignore you? Do they hurt you? Choose you? This is your guidance. Your dreams will reveal, and also your real life relationships. Men become the mirror. They hold up the mirror for you to see exactly where you are weak.

The soft feminine keeps us in flow and present, but the inner masculine is the action, the driving force that moves the needle. This is the energy you need to connect with CONSISTENTLY if you're serious about change in these next 6 months.

The masculine moves the needle. The feminine directs the force. Together they transform your life. 

Write a list of who you ARE in these next 6 months with a healthy strong masculine. Describe this energy. 

Fruits of fear or love? The choice will always be yours, and your patience, faith and standing on business will be the result. Sell your soul because you’re too impatient to wait for the opportunity that feels right? Lean into sheraseven content because you want a man to be your savior instead of God? Sign the lease on the apartment you knew deep down was a bad choice but went ahead anyway. Your gut is guiding you to a life of love, but are you listening? 

Because let’s be honest, when has your intuition ever let you down? Ever lead you into danger? By listening to your internal compass, by creating space to actually hear from God, to get clarity on your next moves - this is how you produce fruits of love. And the taste will be the sweetest. A life you only dream about, rooted in peace, in joy, and overflowing abundance. Your fruits will be filled with love, when you live honestly, aligned with your truth. 

You’re waiting on God, but God’s waiting on you. 

You want a man handed to you, a man who's walking in his purpose, a successful man, a man who respects you, your time, your energy, a provider. But hold up the mirror sweetie. You have to start being that person for yourself. God is waiting for you to start walking in the gifts planted within you, to start following your intuition, to launch the idea you’re scared to birth.  

Why is this important for wanting a man delivered to you? 

Because alignment puts you on the same page as that man, it puts you in the same room, the same country, at the perfect time. When you start walking in your purpose, you’re exactly where you are called you to be. And this puts you in position to meet your partner. 

When you’re floating around like a lost puppy, you’re not in position.

You’re not even listening to spiritual guidance directing your steps daily. Blessings come from obedience. Obedience to the voice inside you, the voice guiding you, the voice that doesn’t quite make full sense. If you can’t follow God in your single season, how are you going to be trusted to show up in a Godly marriage? Because let’s be clear. This isn’t about marrying anyone, and this isn’t about just marrying a rich guy. It’s about marrying a man that is your peace, a man who is your biggest cheerleader, a man that loves you through thick and thin, a man you can trust, a man that is lead by God and not his ego. A man that is honest and faithful. 

The time you don't want to wait for, time you're being impatient about not realising the man you choose to be with is the single most important decision for your entire life. It affects your nervous system, how you feel with him either keeps you in the gutter or takes you to new highs. It impacts your health significantly. Not only that, but further down the line, the man you choose will lead your household, your children, is this a loving man? Is this a man I can rely on?

Time reveals his intentions. It reveals his heart. You need time to see the truth. Time to see if his words hold any weight. Time to see his mood swings and bad habits. Time to see how he handles conflict. Time to see what he’s like in his weak moments. Time will reveal everything you need to know. But I've seen TOOO MANY times, you want him to be the ONE. You don’t want to wait, you don’t want to know the truth. And that is how you end up with a counterfeit. Impatience. 

The answer you want to know, is this your husband? It’s hidden in the time you don’t want to wait for. 

Is he in his word? Is he who he says he is? Is he patient? Is he kind when things aren’t going his way?

Things can only be revealed through time. 

Your role in the dating period is observation and learning. Not catching feelings, desperately hoping he's the one. No, you're smarter, you're wiser, you know better. Dating and is for observing his actions to see if he counterfeit. Noticing the signs, so next time you don’t waste as much time on the next one. 

Would you plump your lips, dye your hair, quit your job? Move to a new city? Sign up for luxury pilates studio? Spend weekends at Spa’s, exploring the country you live in? Would you book those flights to Rome & Greece? Would you start writing the book that’s haunting you? Would you post the content you’ve be wanting too on social media? Would you start speaking up in those moments you stop yourself? Would you live a totally different life if you gave yourself permission….

Often you think it’s resources, restrictions, circumstances,  time restraints, budgets, but the truth is it’s actually you. Let’s be honest here, you’ve not given yourself permission to live the life you desire. You’ve not given yourself permission to allocate your resources and time to the things that you actually love and care about. This is totally a YOU problem. 

You’ve accepted a life, subscribed to an existence that doesn’t match the life you desire, and with that comes resentment, bitterness, judgemental thoughts and feelings, ESPECIALLY towards those that are living how you could only dream of. You seek the news to soothe and match your low vibration energy, gossip to reinforce your lack of self focus, and excuses to enable justification for why you are where you are. 

The issue is not stuck. It’s permission. 

So how do you change this? It’s actually very simple….Start unsubscribing from the life that doesn’t match what you want for your life… Morning scrolls witnessing Rebecca from schools highlight reel. Unsubscribe. Those draining phone calls with your sister? Unsubscribe. The cheap gym that you secretly despise? Unsubscribe. Over-giving at your under paid job? Unsubscribe. 

And with this new space and energy, bit by bit you can give yourself permission to invest in the life that’s occupied your mind and vision board for way too long. BECOME the version of you that lives the life you could only dream of, show up as her, without restrictions, your mom is not stopping you, people judging you are not the reason you shouldn’t live fully. This is your ONE life. Go grab it by the balls and GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION. You deserve it, you are worthy, you are eligible for the upgrade, for the timeline shift, for the transformation. Just… give yourself permission.

I give myself permission to…… (say it out loud, say it with conviction, say it like you fucking mean it). 

Your future depend on how much you can give yourself permission. Acorn or oak tree. Take your pic.