a flaming hot mess of bisexuality

I want to thank everyone for such hilarious and kind additions/replies/tags on this post, they’ve been so amazing to read. They’ve meant more to me than you guys know. ❤️

I also want to add some information for anyone who wants to know more about recognizing the signs that you might be in a high control group.

High control groups can be small or large, religious or not, clubs, schools, online servers, friend groups, etc.

No human is invulnerable because we all have brains and emotions that can be played like a fiddle. Knowing the red flags can help us all keep ourselves safer!

igotout.org

BITE model of understanding thought and behavior control

International Cultic Studies Association (ICSA)

Crisis Text Line (highly recommend, especially if you’re not in a safe place to discuss things on the phone)

Please always protect yourself as best you can and never be afraid to reach out for help—even if you’re just wondering, even if you’re not sure about something.

No safe group or person will EVER be mad at you for being cautious and taking things slow, or for changing your mind at ANY point. You’re the one who gets to decide whether you join or stay with a group, no matter what they threaten or love-bomb you with.

If you’re not safe, there’s help.

If you feel trapped, there’s help.

If people are being actively hurt, good people want to listen, understand, and help.

We all deserve freedom. I’m grateful every morning I wake up that I get to live it now, even though it’s hard and I have a long way to go. Thank you for walking this journey with me, for one brief moment or for years, and helping me—and others like me—not be alone.

1. A lot of dudes. Just a ton of fucking people from beginning to end of the process.

2. Ancient people weren't stupid, they just figured shit out the same way we do: fuck around until you find out.

3. We're gonna plan this out and it's gonna take ten fucking years, and you will cope.

4. Sticks and string are surprisingly versatile and can be used for a variety of purposes, like moving stuff and making sure things are even and go in the spot you wanted to put them in!

Stylinson is an 18+ Larry Stylinson (and Ziam-friendly!) Discord server with a relaxed, low-moderation vibe. Think group chat energy but with organized channels, inside jokes, and people who understand exactly why you’re still emotionally attached to Wellington. We celebrated our one-year anniversary in November, and as of March 24th we have 100 members!

Here’s what joining looks like:

When you enter the server, you’ll automatically receive a DM from one of our bots. It’ll tell you exactly where to go and what to do next, so you never have to worry about getting lost. It looks something like this:

If you don’t get the DM — don’t panic! The server will only show you two channels: #verify and #rules, so you’ll know exactly where to head.

In #verify, you’ll find simple instructions on how to verify yourself. Once you drop the required info, a mod will get to you as soon as they’re available. We’re all human and in different time zones (or rather, sleep schedules), but we’re quick about it!

While you’re waiting, feel free to skim through our rules! They’re straightforward and easy to follow.

This server, and its moderators, pride ourselves on creating an inclusive environment. We are welcoming of all, regardless of race, gender, sexuality, or religion. With that being said, our inclusivity extends to humor. We do not regulate the types of jokes made, and that includes those of a dark nature. Taboo topics are not off limits, so it’s important that you are aware of your own boundaries. This may not be the space for you, and we respect that! While we are not strict on rules, genuine bigotry will not be tolerated. We want everyone to have uncensored fun, but we do not hold space for malicious behavior. Intention matters, and that is where we draw the line.

Once you’re verified, you’ll get full access to all our channels. Everything is super easy to navigate, active, and friendly — no cliques, no cold shoulders. You can jump into any conversation at any time and people will welcome you immediately.

Want your profile to look cute? We’ve got a whole range of color roles to choose from. At the bottom of the channel, you’ll find simple, step-by-step instructions for choosing a color that fits your vibe.

Our community is genuinely one of the kindest corners of the fandom. Everyone is supportive, respectful, and just the right amount of unhinged in the best way. Whether you’re a longtime Larrie or someone who just discovered your first matching tattoo "coincidence", there’s a place for you here.

We’d love to have you join our chaotic, thoughtful, loving, slightly feral little family. You’ll fit right in!

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