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Every app, every cc dating page, so many online speed dating events. I have the best local CC friends. However, have yet to find the LOML even after YEARNING for my SWEETHEART as hard as I can since puberty, as is my lesbian duty.

I have not been active on tumblr in YEARS (the most recent posts you see are from 2022, was in an acotar phase) Otherwise I’ve visited every so often for fic and fun. But back when I was 13 (under another username) this place was my playground. I actually learned that queer people existed thanks to tumblr.)

but as I was traversing the wlw yearning tag during sad girl hours last night, I realized that I have tried everything…but tumblr.

after all, there are people who find true love here. after all, this site is where I found out that queer people existed.

so tumblr sapphics, I entreat you, be a part of my love story, help me find the one. Maybe your friend is the one, maybe your mutual is the one, maybe you are the one

requirements:

Age 24-30, sapphic

Must love Palestine as much as I do (to the moon and back and back again)

Must be still coviding (masking in public) and planning to be that way for the foreseeable future

Will love my tenderly and help me make up for all the hugs I’ve wished for

I don’t intend to be a parent but I intend to be an auntie and want a partner who plans the same

you don’t even have to be in the so-called USA but you have to be down with a) getting here at some point (I need cuddles) b) me wanting to stay here for now (all my people are here)

atm I consider myself femme4femme and monogamous

In a city, like the pic above, they represent rebellion, and efficiency. The messiness of humanity. We like to imagine we're oh so logical and neat so we design our cities to be logical and neat an then real humans literally trample on that idea. The ego required to think you can design something perfect that checks every box. Life is all about compromise and patching stuff when some new problem arises. Though people have certainly tried! Ohio state univeristy let students carve their desire paths, and then paved them over. It looks pretty artsy.

Some people will try to discourage desire paths, but this is almost always going to fail.

Eventually, people just have to accept them. Humans are too dang stubborn.

Certain desire paths are just adorable. A 0.5 second time saver. You just can't design for maximum efficiency, humans will always find shortcuts!

Though on occasion a desire path can actually be the least efficient way...especially if you're superstitious.

In a wilder area, such as below, they show us the curiosity of humans. A desire path somewhere natural often tells you there's something interesting just ahead. (Though remember some ecosystems are fragile and will suffer if trampled! Stick to paths in these sorts of areas)

And how about desire stairs? I always think these look so cool. We get see humans determination to climb, to traverse every kind of terrain.

And for something really crazy...a desire path used for centuries will create a 'holloway'

I can’t stop laughing because…

the best thing you can do is give people an alternative

🍃You know who you are 💫

As exhausting as all the blowback I’ve gotten for this (trans women are remarkable able to unify misogynists and radical feminists in their disgust of us), I’ve been really touched by how many people have reached out to say this argument has changed their mind on the subject.