I have a dear friend who's spent most of her adult life straddling the worlds of her very traditional family and church community, and her very unconventional and socially liberal Burner friends.
And with respect to supporting someone in crisis (abuse, divorce, depression, poverty), they turn out to be very much the same:
Initially supportive but soon tired of your whining / drama
You're still welcome as long as your problems don't disrupt the order / vibe
Unwilling to offer material support
Don't want to hear about one another
Pretty sure that this is your fault for getting divorced / getting married
Remind you frequently that they really are sympathetic to your situation (because they're Good People)



















