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“You don't have to do anything” might still imply a doer.

What is meant is: You don't do anything at all. You just ARE.

You don't see. You don't think. You don't feel. You don't do. You don't want. You don't need. You don't care. You don't detach. You don't assume. You don't pretend. You don't seek. You don't understand. You don't choose. You don't know. You don't notice. You don't observe. You don't interfere. You don't identify with anything. You don't become. You can't do any of these. You just ARE.

Your only duty is to exist, effortlessly. Your duty is existence.

No, scratch that. You don't have a job to do at all. You CANNOT have a job, in fact. This joblessness is " ".

Every “object” has something to do. Eyes see. Ears hear. Hands move. Mouths talk. Birds fly. Creatures walk. Planets orbit. Stars shine. Air blows. Fire burns. Water flows. Earth supports. Space contains. Stories tell. Mind wanders.

But... YOU? YOU aren't an object. YOU don't have a job. YOUR nature is pure joblessness. Pure freedom. All of these objects arise and dissolve, doing as per their nature automatically... as expressions of YOU.

Nature shall play the role it is assigned to do perfectly. After all, it doesn't have an objectified YOU to preserve. It knows that YOU are forever unblemished, unaffected, unchanging and perfect. It knows that it can utterly annihilate itself in the process and still leave you unscathed. All it cares about and prioritises is YOU, first and foremost. If no matter what it does, it makes no difference to YOU, then why wouldn't it do what it should be doing? Why wouldn't it do as it interests itself? Why wouldn't it expand to unimaginable heights and plunge to unfathomable lows? There is nothing stopping it at all.

proeo-host

* ੈ✩‧₊˚* from latin language, pro eo means “in the name of”, this role was made for a specific type of co-host, (it may be an origin term too, if it fits you) for someone who exists on the purpose of being the host when the actual host is not available at the moment for whatever reason. it can also means as “almost the host, but not enough to be the host” as if your personality is close enough to the host, but is still not the host. if is an origin term it can be called proeogenic and you can feel free to make your own flag.

* ੈ✩‧₊˚* this term was created because i saw something (almost) like that, and it fits me, but the other term was created by a anti-endo, sooo i made my own term when EVERYONE can use, as long as you feel it fits you in any form. you can alterate it for something that fits your experience or make an alt flag, it is really up to you. i give my consent for it to be uploaded on pluralpedia. i give my consent for an alt flag or term created based on this. actually i give my consent to do whatever you want with this term, i juts coined it for myself, feel free to use however you want

meaning of the flag: the pink tones is an direct response to the main host flag, which is in red tones. the proeo-host flag is all in pink tones, which is almost red, but not enough to be red. is an metaphour as how you are almost the host, but not enough to actually be it.

* ੈ✩‧₊˚* proeogenic host is an idea of name for when it is both a role and an origin term.

Top Row: Afamilial Spectrum (Afaspec)

Middle Row: Afamilial (left), Demifamilial (right)

Bottom Row: Grayfamilial (left), Caedfamilial (right)

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Afamilial Spectrum: An umbrella terms for all familial identities that are not strictly Allofamilial, while feeling connected to the Afamilial label. Can be shortened to Afaspec or Afamspec. (“Ay-Fah(m)-Spec”) Examples include Demifamilial, Grayfamilial, Caedfamilial, etc.

Afamilial: The absence or near absence of familial attraction, where one may lack the feeling to be close to one considers family, or may not consider anyone family in the first place. Could be shortened to Afa or Afam.

Demifamilial: An afaspec identity where one doesn’t experience familial attraction until forming a deep emotional connection with someone. (or otherwise conditional attachment before experiencing attraction) Could be shortened to Demiafa, or Demiafam.

Grayfamilial/Greyfamilial: An afaspec identity where one feels connected to the afamilial term, however may not describe their familial attraction as strictly afamilial or allofamilial. Could be considered an umbrella term for any afaspec terms that are either between allofamilial and afamilial, or terms that feel simply like they aren’t strictly those two terms. Could be shortened to Grayafa/Greyafa, or Grayafam/Greyafam.

Caedfamilial: A afaspec identity where one feels like their allofamilial disappeared or changed to either strictly afamilial or afaspec due to trauma. Should only be used by those with trauma and/or PTSD. Can be shortened to Caedafa or Caedafam.

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These flags/terms were originally posted on June 16th, 2022. A few of the flags have been slightly color adjusted.

Anyways Hi welcome to the bottom of the post. I made these flags to fill a gap in my hoard since I feel like I’m Afamilial in some ways, and therefore coined Afaspec to fill the gap since I don’t think anyone’s officially coined a term (shorthand term) for Afamilial attraction yet.

That being said I also decided to make some flags since I couldn’t find any and ig “official” (as in idk if anyone else has done it yet) descriptions for Afamilial, Demifamilial, Grayfamilial, and Caedfamilial.

So yeah I made flags for these terms and stuff, I'll likely make Afaflux at some point. Feel free to use these flags and make your own. I’d love to see more familial terms in use. Let me know if any of these flags are significantly bad when it comes to color-blindness or eye strain, I'd be willing to take notes and post an alternative flag(s) if needed.

no you don't

you don't have to love marginalized people you just have to respect them and treat them like real human beings

love ain't got shit to do with it

like can we as a society please find a new word that's not the vaguest catch all meaningless word in existence to use for things like that

On a connecting app like this, there’d be no pressure or expectation to love the beings you connect with. You could have any kind of loveless partnership you’d like, or maybe you could love the being you connect with, but there’s no pressure for said being to love you back if they don’t. Because we’d all understand that this is explicitly a space for those who have complicated/non-normative or nonexistent relationships with love.

A-spec stands for:

Anattractional

Aromantic 

Aplatonic

Afamilial 

Asexual

Alove

Asensual

Aphysical

A-alterous

Aemotional

A-aesthetic

Aqueerplatonic

You are still asexual even if you have SA trauma!

You are still aroace even if you have schizoid PD!

You are still aromantic even if you have NPD!

You are still afamilial even if you have ASPD!

You are still aplatonic even if you are autistic!