Controversial take some of u will get defensive at, but there IS a right way to give advice (in my opinion). I recently discovered this when I made friends with my former bar manager, a guy in his 50s whom Iโm literally in love with (platonically lol). I frequently ask him for advice, and he doles it out to me freely, but heโs also always like โyou have it in you to figure this out.โ Heโs always like โyou donโt need me for this; you have it in you.โ Heโs always reminding me that I have the capacity and experience and emotional intelligence to work through even the toughest weeds. Thatโs the way to give advice. If youโre not bolstering your friendโs confidence, if youโre not inquiring about their own thought process, if youโre just caustically cutting them off with advice every single time, Iโm sorry but to me thatโs doing it wrong.
