Countess Drusilla Steele

Why Is It Always the Little Things That Hurt?

The most hurtful things that are ever said are the little throwaway comments that nobody ever thinks about. Perhaps that’s why they hurt so much? Because no thought went into them first.

Often, the hurt is more about when things are said, rather than what’s said. And that can be changeable. A comment may not bother you one day, but may break your heart the next.

Some days being childless not by…

We Valties (Valued, Valkyrie, Aunties) have a mountain of wisdom in our heads that we acquired because we never became parents. Our Valtieness has allowed us to grow in a way that not everyone can. We see the world a little differently, possibly because we’re able to take risks that most parents aren’t. Whatever the reason, our specific wisdom is what the next generations are going to need to…

When Others Reduce You to Only Your Childlessness

People who live with Depression and other mental illnesses have to deal with stigma and discrimination every day. Often that stigma is their own. Particularly with Depression, it’s difficult to stop your internal narrator from blaming you for everything that’s wrong in your life.

Sometimes, it’s difficult to remember that your Depression is not all you are. It’s a part of you, sure, but it’s not…

The Valtie Battle Cry!

I should warn you, this post contains bad language and will probably offend some people. I don’t care, sometimes stuff just has to be said.

I’ve been doing a lot of talking and writing recently about young people and a project I’m developing that will help them to express themselves and will hopefully lead to a reduction in the suicide rate in the young adult age group. You can check it out here.

You Do Not Deserve to be Childless

I do not like Donald Trump.

I thought I’d get that statement out of the way first, so if you think you might be offended by what I’m probably going to say about the current U.S. President, you don’t have to upset yourself by reading any further.

The reason I’ve been thinking about his trumpship is that I’ve been thinking about self-worth, suicide, and mental health in general. As I often do,…

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What Are You Going to Do with All That Wisdom?

Finding your passion and purpose is a life-saving accomplishment if you’re childless not by choice. And it should be celebrated.

If you’ve found your passion and purpose, it means you’ve put a whole lot of work into healing your heart, and that’s not easy.

It means you’ve done a whole lot of grieving, probably by yourself, but perhaps with the support of a partner or of another strong, childless…

The Nation’s Baby is Not My Baby

Our Prime Minister just gave birth to her first child. Don’t get me wrong, this is wonderful news for her and her partner, particularly as the couple had trouble conceiving and now they have a lovely little girl.

There were all kinds of carrying on from politicians and the media when she announced she was pregnant because apparently, she knew she was pregnant when she became Prime Minister.…

It’s Not Your Job to Make Him a Father

Time and time again, I hear women say “I’m so lucky he stays with me even though I can’t give him kids.”  Of all the things I hear childless women say, and the things I’ve said myself, I think this one pains me the most. It implies that the only reason women are put on this earth is to have children. And that’s just wrong.

I completely understand why we feel this way, we live in a world where…

No More Neenish Tarts!

Is anyone else annoyed that they’ve gone to all this bother to lose weight and they’re currently wearing that many clothes that they’re the size of a small house?

Ain’t Winter fun?

So, I’m feeling pretty damned good at the moment. I’ve lost weight two weeks in a row and fully expect to lose more weight when I weigh in on Saturday morning.

I’m feeling stronger, physically that is. I’m still…

New! Countess Drusilla Steele on Youtube Every Week!

Sigh…Sorry about this.

The Countess has decided that she can no longer deprive the general public of her wisdom and insights about how she copes with being childless by circumstance, and not by choice.

You know what she’s like. She’ll probably end up bleating on about all kinds of things as well.

On the plus side, the videosare only going to last a couple of minutes or so and it’s only once a…

3 Valuable Strategies We Can Learn from Childfree Women

If you’ve been following me for any length of time you’ll know that I have a thing about words. I like to arrange them in pretty ways, I like to make them up, and I can get really uptight about how they’re used.

One of the many things women who are childless not by choice have to face is the way we are labeled as “childless.” I know that’s what we are, we are women who do not have children.

Howe…

I would have thought that after the thousands of dollars I spent on getting a Psychology degree that I would not need to be hit over the head with the same lessons, over and over again.

Sigh…

So, Saturday’s session went well and I feel like I got rid of some more stuff that’s been holding me back. It’s interesting though. It feels a bit like as soon as I get rid of one limiting belief, another…

Well. It’s been a crazy old week with lots of twists and turns, and ups and downs.

I’ll start with the downs. I put on 300 grams this week.

I know, I know, that’s nothing really. And it could be hormones, muscle, dodgy scales or some other weird thing I don’t know about yet.

Or…it could have been the lollies I ate the night before I weighed myself.

Self-sabotage Rears Its Ugly Head. Again

So, on…

No, really, I do.

It involves an ambulance ride, a week in hospital, and a gallbladderless return home to recover. Not fun, my friends, not fun.

I won’t bore you with any of the gory details but the main thing is, I’m home and recovering well. I seem to get tired really easily still, but some more sleep won’t do me any harm.

Incidentally, when did ambulances become so expensive? I’m going to need…