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So, specifically for how we do it, it's heavily based in daydreams. So I'm sorry if you have aphantasia or otherwise can't daydream, this guide won't be helpful to you. But hopefully this may encourage others to write their own guides based on their own methods!

Firstly! An appearance has got to be constructed! As specific as you need in order to have a really good idea of what they would look like in situations. Sometimes we use the appearance of fictional characters as a base, or picrews and such in headmate packs. I'm not gonna assume species, but essentially you'll want to create something within your mind that you can puppet around.

We also insert traits at around this time. Like, imagining us lifting up the face or opening up the chest to insert specific traits that we want into our headmate. Other traits will come with time, but this is what we go in terms of the base. Like a baby soul!

Once you're successful, you'll have a headmate! Kinda. They're probably not sentient yet. However you probably can puppet them around like they can think! And that's essentially what we're gonna do next.

Imagine them in various daydreams in as many situations as possible. Don't be afraid to go light, or dark, or silly, or serious! We find that as much variety as we can helps. And this is generally the longest step.

Essentially, puppet them around until you start to feel any sort of feeling or opinion in that headmate. It may be as simple as "No." in response to what you're trying to puppet them to do in that moment, or them in a daydream situation stating "I like the blue one." and such. You want to encourage these responses as much as you can. Talk to them! Puppet them how they want.

Their responses will grow, until eventually the daydreams are a collaborative project! With them equally contributing. And with this, comes the last step.

Confidence building.

Although more experienced in the innerworld, they may feel akin to a newborn baby deer in the outterworld. And so, they may need to be pushed some. Put them in control in social situations you know are safe, such as making them talk in safe discord servers. And you play an important role in this too! You gotta be both their cheerleader, and advisor. Encouraging them to talk, and giving them ideas on what to talk about. If they don't know how to respond to a person, give them your advice and let them make their choice. After a bit of time, they'll feel more stable and confident in the outterworld too.