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My policy is this: based on the limits created by the manufacturer we need to protect ourselves.

Carnival rides have saftey limits and while missing out sucks I'm not gonna risk my life. That said: a modern ride should take a variety of sizes into factor.

Fat people aren't the only ones excluded from rides either, they have height limits and limb requirements. The problem is the manufactures make rides for the bell curve crowd, it takes money to be inclusive and the more people talk about the issue the more pressure they feel to try to make inclusive rides. It's possible they just have to see the money in it. (Remember how car manufacturers used thin average cis men as their test subjects for DECADES when crash testing? And how its only begun to change so other drivers can actually be safe?)

Limits and requirements should be POSTED clearly in line. And staff need to be informed and not push the saftey of riders. It's embarrassing, it's isolating, it pisses me off but we can advocate for inclusive design while also keeping ourselves alive. Current designs are exclusionary and discriminatory against many groups of people. We are just more common and thus encounter it more often.

As for exit rows on planes I read the reasoning, hey air lines, why are you even having passengers help. Your staff should be able to manage the physical aspect alone. Given that the population is aging the pool of people who can push or lift 30 - 60 pounds is lowering by the year. A major flaw in this whole discussion.

"The seat belt extender is a tripping hazard" fair enough. Since yall wanna be so cheap and wont replace seat belts that roll back up like a car seat belt you have the ones that just flop around. But so are high heels. And flip flops. Not an awful policy but maybe be more consistent about tripping hazards in an emergency. A double standard.

Actually I didnt even see it mentioned that exit row/emergency exit customers had to be wearing closed toed lace up shoes. That should be policy in general if it isn't.

"the seats are more narrow" totally fair, some of us can squeeze in but it hurts like hell. This is a design limit, it falls under manufacturer limit.

"You have to be able to push/pull 30 - 60 pounds" thin people can't all do this either. Its a fair requirement and doesn’t actually logically disinclude fat people. Holley Mangold would be more than qualified to handle the door but would be excluded because of narrow seats and belt issues.

So this is a real mixed bag. The tripping hazard is a double standard 100%.

The narrow seats are part of the saftey plan which is morally neutral imo. The way the tray is put away narrows the seat space. Unless you want to completely remove access to trays I can't think of a better approach.

The strength requirement is what it is, we don't want easy open Boeing doors. This too I'm saying is neutral.

So mixed bag. Things definitely could be better. Things can be better. Rides blatantly discriminate against certain riders, planes are a hellscape but at a minimum need less double standards.

Remember yall keep yourselves alive, advocate for change and dont tolerate fools who say "just loose weight".

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What actually makes us healthier (but not necessarily thinner:

Enjoyable physical activity

Eating a variety of nutritious foods

Eating enough to be satisfied

Nurturing meaningful social connections

Cultivating body acceptance

Prioritizing quality sleep

How dieting can erode our health:

Restricting food, leading to nutrient shortfalls or bingeing

Weight cycling (losing and regaining), which increases body fat and decreases muscle

Avoiding doctors because of your weight

Skipping social gatherings to void "off-limits" food

Skimping on sleep for extra exercise

The hidden harm of weight stigma

Our healthcare system often assumes higher weight = poorer health. But research shows that weight stigma (whether external or internal) increases the stress hormone cortisol.

Chronic stress plays a casual role in cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, and other conditions.

Missing questions in weight-centric research

When researchers see poor health in larger bodies, they rarely ask:

Could it be the physiological effects of weight shame?

Could it be due to experiencing stigma at the gym?

If we don't measure fitness levels and weight stigma, how do we know body weight is the actual culprit?

What the Diabetes Prevention Program really proved

The DPP is often cited as proof that weight loss prevents diabetes. But participants were far more successful at meeting their physical activity goals than their weight loss goals. It's actually evidence that regular movement reduces risk!

The weight-inclusive approach

This approach makes room for all bodies without dictating that people must change their size to be healthy.

Remember: the exact same things that improve health for a thin person improve health for a fat person.

Making the mental shift

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