If they can't find fault in your words they will poke and poke until they get something to point at and say 'look, this is a bad person, I was right!' Nevermind if they've done and said the exact same things, social justice for me but not for thee. Hypocrisy is not in their vocabulary other than to turn it against the Enemy of the Day.

I'm not talking about your run-of-the-mill troll doing it for a laugh. Usually it is someone with real skin in the game, someone who has been hurt and is still hurting and only knows how to deal with it by taking it out on others. They generally respond very poorly to expressions of concern or suggestions for alternatives to what they're currently doing.

It sucks because clearly they are having an awful time, and often they gain an audience that feeds off the high of each new fight. They excommunicate anyone that isn't in full support so it becomes an echo chamber.

They generally have a long standing pattern of ruminating about a certain discourse or Enemy of the Day and bringing it back up, juggling their discourses every few days/weeks/months to keep the intensity high even when everyone else has gotten sick of it.

If this description resonates about anyone you've seen, I suggest ignoring and blocking from the get-go, do not interact, do not express concern, if you have them blocked and they are fomenting about you still do not respond to anything they say, delete all asks regarding it, turn off asks for a bit if you need to, let the wave pass.

Work towards youth having more freedom in choosing where they live AND building a foundation of living options for all kids, especially those who are severely isolated/don't have any safe options currently. Give them protection and recourse when parents (any adult actually, just in current system it is often parents) try to use the legal system to get them back in their control.

Extending this further is allowing and protecting the rights of youth leave any situation without fear of what comes next. This means kids not being physically restrained for walking out of a classroom. This means choosing to leave your parents home doesn't require a child to justify how terribly abusive or neglectful their parents are. This means that when anyone makes a child unsafe or uncomfortable, the child having means and ability to go somewhere else safe that can provide for their needs.

I saw an old post of mine and it made me think about it more and wonder what people's framework is. Feel free to check it out to better understand what I'm asking.

Also question when others agonize about 'everyone is saying xyz', don't let this get categorized as more datapoints because your brain exponentially grows the issue."'this person also saw everyone saying this so there MUST be everyone² number of people saying this."

It behooves a small group to pretend their belief is pervasive and righteous. It creates a sort of moral bandwagon effect of 'oh everyone is talking about this? I must be wrong for disagreeing' to grow the number of people who believe.

'Remember the hits and forget the misses' function of brain seems to scale to how awful the 'hit' (discourse in this case) is which can counter your bullshit detector if you aren't careful. One person who is saying some whack stuff can be written off... but then you see posts lamenting how everyone believes xyz and suddenly it seems plausible to you.

Is everyone saying xyz thing now, or is there a discord/friend group of ~10 people central to the discourse happening that spend every waking moment talking about it?

"Your Cringe Behavior is insulting to me, who honorably suffers in a non cringe way"

Intercommunity behavior policing won't make anyone respect you more. You are just upholding the already existing power structures (and are therefore more likely to direct that ire at the most vulnerable people in your community)

When you conflate cringe, annoyance, and discomfort with active harm all you do is justify doing violence in return. You become the cudgel so those in power don't have to directly do the violence.

What harm is being done?

What power does this person hold?

Language and perception are imperfect things we use to categorize and communicate. It is inevitable that some experiences will fall outside our personal understanding.

One reflex to confusion is often anger, frustration, and desire to gain or maintain control.

This often results in attempts to control other's language, and failing that, deny their identity/existance entirely. When this ultimately fails the next urge is to treat that person as an aggressor, someone doing something wrong

'their identity is fundamentally hurting me'

'they aren't really X, they're actually Y but can't understanding this'

'X is actually secretly a hate group and not an identity'