I need to sleep but here's a long post of thoughts instead
I genuinely think it'd be easier for the world to heal if we all acknowledged that "adult" pretty much just means traumatized kid who expects themselves to fit a standard/has expectations forced on them making them think they need to fit a standard, and that we are all trying to figure out how to escape that standard and that really most of us aren't even aware that what we are doing is forcing ourselves to be palatable to others perception. You don't need to be an adult to be smart or valid etc etc and you don't need to be a kid to be worthy of expressing your raw true self including your struggles. It's like only certain forms of expression are expected of certain age groups and it's always been super fucked up to me.
People are treated like shit and like their word is always inherently something that requires input to ever be any amount of valid, and then they grow up without being told that that wasn't okay because it's still seen as the norm and often they're even treated like they did something wrong for leaving. Kids are literally just people and parents are literally just people too, parents are not inherently good teachers for kids nor will they inherently be able to figure out the way a kid will best understand something, often you can only really teach what you know which leaves you basically completely alone when you're a kid with parents who don't know how to get on the same page as you and think you're just incompetent.
Especially when you're barely socialized, when you're a kid you don't really have a car and leaving your house on your own is considered shockingly horrific, the socialization you get is whoever your parents happen to have you around and if they don't try to socialize you at all, you're kinda just alone until school, and then you don't really have a choice to leave school either, so you barely ever have a choice on who you're around until you're able to leave all of this behind and at that point you could've very well been affected by this all and someone being themselves in a way that annoys you could become offensive to you because you see it as an invasion of your space as you're not used to even having your own space, someone simply existing in the same space as you and being comfortable enough to be themselves is not harmful, this moment is not eternity and you can walk away from people now, you should've been allowed to do this by default and you should've never had to wait for it but you can now and I promise dwelling on what you don't want to be around won't help you.
Shitloads of people are raised with condescending tone and tactics, this will inevitably get into your head and you might feel like doing similar things to others will heal you or that it'll teach them something they need to learn. You can't magically change someone's mind, they have to learn for themselves. That is hard as shit to acknowledge I'm aware of, the fact that so many people in the world do unbelievable things is , unbelievable, but absolutely everything is a cycle and unfortunately throwing more and more bullshit into the fire will just give it more fuel to make it bigger. If you want the cycle to change you gotta take care of yourself and ignore others as best you can, and you gotta allow others to take care of themselves too.
