Whos Liver is it Anyway?

seeing trans women out in public is like warm sunlight washing over me it genuinely brightens my mood

i’m on that weird shit. i’m jacking odd. disturbating. creeping my meat

i imagine being medicated would feel good as fuck. unfortunately i have to rawdog whatever's wrong with me

fucking crazy that fromsoft made one single elden ring dlc and it's about how detransition will kill your soul

also it's about how receiving dragon communion is a viscerally erotic experience

my biggest complaint about the elden ring dlc is that there is (and please correct me if I'm wrong) no sif-style cutscene change for malenia if you kill miquella before facing her. it sucks so hard that they figured that out in dark souls 1 and then seemingly forgot how awesome it was

honestly with malenia we kinda think that part ov the tragedy ov her story iz that she haz no way ov knowing if miquella iz alive or dead and will continue to wait for him either way & her knowing u killed miquella would kinda undermine tht imo。what we really wouldve liked personally in termz ov "base game character reactionz to DLC" would be like, melina mourning messmer & giving us a little peak into their dynamic az siblingz, ditto for rennala and rellana, & ranni reacting to the metyr situation。guess part ov the issue iz tht by th point in th average playthrough where most begin the DLC melina & ranni (along with much of the rest of the cast) are no longer interactable characterz

the lack of dlc-maingame interactions feels like the devs just didn't include it because they kinda intended for you to do the dlc after the main game is all wrapped up. and honestly that kind of annoys me a lot. because if they wanted for example melina to be dead/gone by the start of the dlc they should've made burning the erdtree a prerequisite for entering the dlc. like, how does melina have Nothing to say about the lands of shadow? isn't she one of the few characters who would be aware of its existence?

fucking crazy that fromsoft made one single elden ring dlc and it's about how detransition will kill your soul

also it's about how receiving dragon communion is a viscerally erotic experience

i think. im not having a great day.

like it's not really controversial to say that by-and-large, trans women are struggling, whether that be emotionally, financially, socially, or whatever. It's also not controversial to say that someone you need to prioritize taking care of yourself over others. And there's a lot of really hard to acquire and valuable skills in recognizing that your needs aren't being met, understanding that you can't take responsibility for someone else's life, and figuring out how to end a relationship in a way that doesn't make you feel guilty forever. But the article doesn't do any of that, it just handwaves all the difficult parts in favor of ragging on this hypothetical puppygirl.

If you are a trans woman interested in dating other trans women it is entirely possible and even likely, that you will at some point, find yourself in a relationship where someone is relying on you beyond your capacity to support them. What do you do then? How do you have that conversation? How do you move on? Is the only way to pretend that your partner is pure evil and pat yourself on the back for escaping? Is that the point of this article? I disagree, obviously, but I don't have answers. It just seems pointlessly cruel to talk about weaponized incompetence in respect to this girl who is disabled and struggling.

It's totally fair to talk about the stress that taking care of someone places on the caretaker. It's totally fair to talk about how trans women are likely to end up in those respective positions - what I think the article lacks is a real look into why these relationships happen and how to actually analyze the distribution of labor. And like that whole article is basically an extended way of saying that the puppygirl is doing gendered violence to her partners, which is not a topic to handle bluntly!!! I'm not even saying it's untrue because I think there are gendered aspects worth unpacking in relational dynamics but its just so tactless to be like "yeah the puppygirl is being all male socialized to everyone!" which is neither a useful nor a widely applicable message!!!!

Going to be honest, I went into the article fully expecting to agree with it and every additional moment I spend thinking on it leaves me a bit more pissed off. It sucks. I don't like it. There's a point to be made and she totally failed to make it because she wrote a hitpiece about disabled girls. Idk. I could talk for hours about how you need to make hard choices about your relationships and kindness isn't always a virtue and how unequal relationships hurt everyone involved and so on and so on and so on and hopefully none of it would involve that kind of unsympathetic portrayal of a disabled trans woman.

the thing is also that "kick your disabled and unemployed gf to the curb" is really shitty advice because most people aren't going to be okay with doing that to someone they care about and the rest are going to be tormented with guilt about it forever