it’s acc really fucking annoying how people insist on treating everything i say as some kind of cope or defence mechanism. “you’re not aroace, you say that because you’re chopped and nobody wants to date you, that’s why you yumeship because nobody wants you in real life.” sure bro. “you don’t actually prefer being on your own or not having friends, you’re just telling yourself that so you can feel better about being lonely.” sure bro.
it’s like some people genuinely cannot comprehend that someone might be content without relationships. and so everything i say has to be a coping strategy. never mind the fact that when i did was in a friend group i was stressed and anxious all the time because maintaining relationships is emotionally exhausting, or that when i was in a relationship, it was purely out of social expectation and wanting to fit in rather than any real attraction.
