i ought to kick god's ass

I'm bored and pissed off and was just sent two quite interesting tiktoks by an (ex-)tiktok mutual, so I will now do my best to explain why all of it's points are wrong (despite being terrible at explaining things, so please don't mind how awkwardly this is written)

said tiktoks are these two:

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeL5psfo/

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGeLaaDUg/

(note that if you send any harassment to the creator of these, you are just as bad as any antishipper that harasses proshippers. also OPs pronouns are it/he/they, please don't misgender it if you talk about it)

Now, the first point I want to make about the first tiktok, isn't really that important in the grand scheme of things, but, the post repeatedly misuses the term "proship" as meaning "problematic ship". This is just,, completely false, the actual meaning of proship just meaning being in favour of letting people ship whatever; ship and let ship, don't like don't read. So, when talking about this I will refer to the problematic shipping this person is talking about ase"darkship/darkshipper/darkshipping"

Their first reason as to why darkshipping is bad for you, basically comes down to "someone being groomed could see it and that'll make them think it's normal". This is, technically true, as in "this could happen". However, regardless of whether a grooming victim sees that post, they're sadly most likely going to believe what's happening to them is normal, either way. Because, contrary to unpopular belief, groomers will not tell you that the situation you're in is dangerous. A much better option to reduce this than trying to get rid of this content would be things that are, from my experience, already greatly encouraged in proship spaces: learning and educating about abuse/grooming, and recognizing the warning signs. (I'd also like to mention that this is generally a good thing to learn, regardless of what you do in your life, you can never know when you'll need it)

His second reason is that darkship content could trigger someone, which, again, is technically true, but there's better ways to avoid that instead of trying to get rid of all content with potentially triggering topics (since not only darkshipping would be bad in this case, but also all portrayals of anything that could ever trigger anyone. So let's just get rid of media altogether; it could trigger someone!); this way being.. trigger warnings and tags! Something that most proship spaces also encourage!

His third point boils down to "darkshipping will make it easier for you to get groomed" which.. doesn't make quite sense to me? And also has some victim-blaming vibes? (<- I am NOT trying to say that this was their intent, but it's still important to point out.) I feel like people who don't even know about what grooming is or aren't educated on it are more at risk. But in the end, the groomer is always at fault for the grooming, never the victim. I'd also like to refer back to my first counter-argument.

The second video focuses on why "proshipping" is bad for the proshipper specifically.

Their first point, once again, focuses on triggers, claiming that people who ship illegal things out of coping reasons are inherently triggering themselves and making their recovery impossible. Yikes. This is an incredibly weird and incorrect thing to claim. Triggers are different depending on people, and you alone cannot decide which content, circumstances or behaviour triggers someone else. I feel like that should be obvious, but it's a weirdly common thing for antis to say, usually with the reasoning "I'm a survivor of grooming/abuse/csa and it triggers me", which is a valid thing to feel, but not a valid reason to dictate about what triggers other people.

It's second point is about how detrimental it is to receive so many death threats and hate comments. I wonder who's to blame for darkshippers getting so much hate? Could it be the antis? Or the misinformation that these antis spread? Surely not. /sarcasm

His third point is digital footprint and future employment. Contrary to antishipping belief, future employers do, in fact, not have "proshippers dni" at the bottom of their employment contract, and they will likely never care about the blorbos that you write about. However, something that future employers could care about are repeated instances of targeted cyberbullying and suicide baiting, which, you know, antishippers tend to commonly encourage.

It's fourth point is about how, if you're openly a proshipper, you'll make proship friends. Which makes sense, happened to me too, but the issue that OP has with this, is that this situation could lead to grooming. Now, I don't fully get this point either? Every community, sadly, has groomers in it, which is why I would once again like to refer back to my very first counter-argument.

If you made it to this point I'd like to repeat myself and say that any harassment towards OP makes you worse than them, so please just block him and move on if you're that bothered.

as my username name may imply, i'm really into primal & pet play. specifically a wolf vs lamb dynamic, though i also enjoy being a rabbit.

my other kinks/fetishes: cnc♡, age play, degradation♡, worship♡, knife/blood play, and terato♡. omo and vomiting (only in fiction). maybe breeding too?

eh & hard no's: feet, misgendering, scat, race play, real impreg, tradwife.

petnames that i like: bun, pretty thing, little one, and lambkin.

dms & general interactions:. ༝ i don't typically rp with strangers, so please don't ask. ༝ i'm not actively looking for a bdsm partner, but i'm not avoiding it either. ༝ i'm actually quite shy when talking directly to others & dissociate quite a bit, so please be patient if i don't respond right away.

miscellaneous: i'm apart of a polyfragmented collective, though i won't really talk about it on this particular blog. i am also in a in-sys relationship with uriah, @centipedette. ༝ this is a sideblog.