some people really do just live in a hell of their own making huh.
that Kairi "fan" who was being aphobic to me in one of my vent posts has a ton of posts and reblogs and comments about how much they think Nomura hates Kairi. then when they get called out for making all of their "proof" up or being bigoted, they never respond and just. pretend they don't see it.
on top of that, this person is utterly convinced that Riku's EN VA also hates Kairi just because he's been... checks notes... making jokes about Riku being jealous of Kairi every now and then on his KH1 streams?? this has to be satire oh my god.
listen. to my fellow Kairi fans on this site. I'm sorry you feel upset about Kairi's treatment in the series. believe me, I feel the same way. half of the reason why I'm writing my fic series is to give her a better story. hell, I even believe in the insane KHUX worldline theory for KH3 just because it gives Kairi more of a role in the story & explains why she's so helpless in the Keyblade Graveyard in a way that isn't misogynistic.
but frankly, when you have to reach this hard to make a point, you need to recognize that you are creating a much worse version of reality and trying to drag everyone else into it with you. by commenting everywhere about how much you think KH, Nomura, David Gallagher, aromantic Kairi headcanon havers, and so on hate this specific character, you're only making everyone else miserable with you. you're making yourself feel worse by focusing so hard on all the things you wanted but didn't get from the series.
when you're upset with media for misogynistic choices, whether it's just perceived or actually there, the best thing you can do is talk about it. this is true. but all you're doing by complaining on and on about it and finding more reasons to be upset is, well, creating a hellhole of hate and misery for yourself. that is not what fandom is meant to be. when you notice a pattern of misogyny in a story, but you still clearly love the story, you know what you do?
you analyze. you write. you draw. you create. you make up your own version and share it with other fans, because that is what fandom was made for.
there comes a point where you become so disillusioned with a story that you have to take a step back, and maybe consider what you want it to mean to you now that you feel this way about it. do you still love it enough to talk about it and hang out with other fans? or are you only in the fandom to tell people how much you hate the series you're supposedly a fan of? you may think you're only hating on one part of it, but the moment you take your complaints to the level of being about the creator or other people involved in the creation of that story, you are really not a fan anymore. you are allowed to like something and dislike the creator, yes. but if the only thing you post about or interact with for months at a time is vent/rant posts about this thing you supposedly love, you're not actually being a fan anymore. you're making fandom a worse place by refusing to either create fanwork that helps alleviate the anger, or move on and find works that don't upset you this much.
criticism is different from endless hate. you're allowed to criticize the things you love. but if criticism is all you ever do in fandom, are you really a fan?
let yourself be happy. let yourself create and find joy in the things you love again. don't cling to a series that you clearly hate when it's only causing you and everyone around you to be miserable all the time.
