Avoidance, from my own perspective, is the current epidemic. Plenty of people are tuning into mindfulness without applying willpower. Their self-awareness is growing, and their environmental awareness is becoming more thoughtfully critical. But the expectation of applying effort to doing what doesn't feel right seems to get tangled up in their sense of danger.
This is why I've been "preaching" more and more about distress/stress tolerance. Becoming resistant to discomfort is not the same as becoming resilient to it. More effort is going to be needed for the things your nervous system has decided are "threatening" because it doesn't operate off of conscious logic. Your nervous system operates from survival.
It's up to you - your conscious and aware self - to deliberately expose yourself to what "sucks" while letting the inner animal know "this isn't a threat, it just doesn't feel fun or rewarding". Reinforce the difference between potential harm and plain sucky discomfort over and over and over again. You have to actively apply the effort to this... otherwise, you are dysfunctioning and creating potential harm for yourself and others. You're not adapting because you're not surviving... you're avoiding.
I know... we don't like it... but this is where that one phrase applies: you gotta grin and bear it.
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