zwischen immer und nie

Still relevant

btw ahead of pride, just know that corporations cannot be LGBT allies but this is especially true for alcohol companies who have targeted us for decades because we as a community have a history of alcohol abuse and because for us being social almost always means going to a bar and they’ve exacerbated these issues while making money off of them so just remember that and don’t shell out $25 for some Absolut vodka in a fucking rainbow bottle this June even if RuPaul tells you to

Straight dudes be like oh I’m supposed to wash my face? And change my shower curtain? And sweep my floor? And go to therapy? And not eat exclusively off plasticware in my own home? And wipe off my stovetop? And have seperate hand soap and body soap? Like shut the hell up and learn how to be a functional human without a girl teaching you everything I’m tired

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?” 

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything.