disclaimer: i am not indigenous hawaiian so i cant speak to that lived experience

second disclaimer: i dont think every BIM joke falls into these or other racist categories or that all of the BIMsphere is inherently problematic, but there are absolutely pockets of this that seem to go largely unquestioned. so here i am. questioning them

basically while it seems like we can all agree that kapu cave isnt good representation of hawaiian culture (nor did it probably ever intend to be), i think theres a point where poking fun of the caricature of BIM starts to perpetuate further racism. one thing in particular ive noticed is when people jokingly feign attraction to him or call him a DILF, when my reaction to that is like okay. what about him makes it funny for you to pretend to be attracted to him. like lets name this. there's also some "i want to run away and be his big island princess" type humor which accidentally or otherwise plays into settler colonialism mindsets.

i think there's a degree of the "is it bad to poke fun at bad representation" conversation to be had here but this isn't a specific area of that i can speak on. re: not being hawaiian.