Am I Cool Yet?

Shinigami eyes was always going to turn out this way. A user submitted system with no moderation or oversight is bound to be manipulated by bad actors. That’s just human nature atp.

But the specific way that it’s been weaponized against anyone who doesn’t fall in line is insane. People will be marked red for:

- Acknowledging that exosexism exists

- Acknowledging that trans men experience a unique form of oppression

- Are a trans woman or trans feminine person who doesn’t go along with any of this

As a result, you have a system where people are being marked red for doing things like talking about their lived experiences as a trans man, and people are being marked green for calling trans men whiny transandrocunts for daring to speak up about any of this. Or better yet telling us to kill ourselves- a tumblr classic.

this is not how to be an ally to trans men. using us as a shield and cover for you, a non trans man, a non transmasculine person, to center cis people sending anonymous messages about being sexually preyed upon by trans women and fems. and this is not how to build solidarity with trans women and fems. to put it bluntly, this comes across as a extraordinarily selfish choice that either is a purposeful attempt of sabotage or it is wildly misguided and will have the consequence of sabotaging our liberation movement nevertheless.

if you have experienced intracommunity violence you deserve to be able to speak freely about it, but not like this. my god do not feed into this. there are other places you can go, blogs that are run with the express purpose of giving trans men and mascs somewhere to vent their pain. please find another outlet that doesn’t risk widening the rift and setting back our liberation work drastically.

and they removed the trans part and went: "no, women don't have to worry about being seen as predatory when interacting with people, either you are lying about that or you are not really a woman"

you would rightfully be pissed off

As an example of the problem:

"Ablebodied people treat visible symptoms of disability as a joke" - statement of a general cultural problem, is not trying to imply that every single ablebodied person does this.

"Ablebodied people will never know what it's like to be told you're faking by your doctor" - Understandable as a vent post, but ignores the reality of a lot of people, both neurodivergent and with physical or neurological disabilities that don't quite push them into being considered disabled as a category.

"Ablebodies will say "I can't go outside because I'm too sad :(" meanwhile I can't go outside because I can't get out of bed without passing out and they have the audacity to claim they're more oppressed" - No longer describing ablebodied people as people but rather as a noun in itself, clearly using ablebodied as a stand-in for neurodivergent, ignoring more serious ways that neurodivergent people are oppressed in favor of a strawman that's easier to attack.

"Bomb that kills all ablebodied people" (as a bitter joke) - understandable way to feel but you probably shouldn't be posting that next to your serious political opinions. Or maybe at all.

Every time I come on here, I'll see another 'transfeminist' with hundreds or thousands of notes, talking about a phenomenon that is supposedly unique to 'tma' people, and then I'll squint at it and its literally something transmascs have also been talking about on this site for over a year*.

The entire concept of malgendering (only being gendered one way when it can be used against you)

Invisibility messing with statistics

Being in cis men's spaces often being more dangerous than cis women's spaces as a visibly trans person

Permanent health issues because of gendered expectations growing up even if thats not the gender you identify with

But then an extremist group within the group forms and their main thing that differentiates them from the rest is they go around shooting ambidextrous people with a gun.

And people, reasonably, go "huh?? That's fucked up! What does that have to do with left handed liberation?? Ambidextrous people are part left handed!" And your average joe Leftie Liberator is like "we don't support that!"

But they keep doing it. And they become very influential members of the community. And they become government officials. The most famous Leftie Liberator on earth shoots ambidextrous people with a gun. Ambidextrous people start dying at shocking rates. Left handed people get mistaken for ambidextrous. Ambidextrous people start hiding the fact that they are ambidextrous.

And instead of doing something about this, right handed and left handed people alike go "well that's not a REAL Leftie Liberator. I won't call them that. Those are Stinkie Poop Heads."

And this does nothing except make the people saying it feel good. And the extremist Leftie Liberators keep shooting people with guns.

Anyway this is how I feel about calling TERFs FARTs. They don't care that you're calling them an acronym that sounds like a juvenile insult. You're not helping anyone by calling them that. You're not changing anything. Telling people they're not real feminists doesn't do anything when those people are legislating trans people to death in the name of feminism and are well known, powerful people within the feminist movement.

Phase one: Actually this subsect of the demographic isn't really oppressed and they're LARPing as oppressed.

Phase two: okay, even if they are oppressed, they're not as oppressed as (group B), and talking about their oppression takes attention from the real problem which's the oppression group B faces.

Phase three: okay they are oppressed and we're seeing that they have their own kind of oppression. But they're actually talking about their oppression the wrong way.

Phase four: Okay fine they can decide their own words >:[ i give up.