Murphy's Law Applies

MUSTARD JONES RETURNS

Bare in mind this is just my experience but when it comes to deadnames I’ve not really heard people talking about fucking up themselves. For the first few weeks after changing my name it wasn’t just other people messing it up, it was me too. This doesn’t mean my new name wasn’t right. It just means that after a lifetime of reacting to my old one, no matter how much I wanted to use a new one, old habits are hard to break.

People would fuck up and accidentally call me my old name, coworkers, friends and family, and to make it worse I’d respond out of some knee jerk reaction and we’d both feel like shit.

I just want people to know that it gets better, eventually your deadname gets filtered out and you stop grinning like a lunatic when people get it right. Your new name will eventually become utterly mundane and I love that and hope everyone who changes their name reacher this point of pure fucking joy in the mundane.

Especially when I'm right about something.

Since then I've met someone with my deadname and though it was a struggle initially, I can now say that it's their fucking name, not my old one.