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“It’s easier for trans men to pass/be stealth!!”

Actually it’s easier for people with very specific bodies (white, thin, average height) with large incomes and supportive families to transition medically in a way which is more likely to conform to strict ideas of ‘man’ and ‘woman’

I swear every time I see someone try to make the argument for one of us having it better they exclusively either cite celebrities (again, see white, rich, thin) or assume that the people they know irl are representative of every trans person.

It also begs the point that YOU DO NOT KNOW IF SOMEONE IS STEALTH UNLESS THEY TELL YOU. No one actually knows how many trans people successfully live as stealth.

Most of the passing trans people I know personally are women, but most of the trans people I know to be stealth are men. I also know far more trans women than I do trans men. Not to ignore the fact that these arguments completely erase non binary people who are pressured to just pick a binary gender to ‘pass’ as because it is functionally impossible to be a ‘stealth’ non binary person.

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Then in Sinners the most popular guy is the white guy thats the personification of racism assimilation that doesn't appear in half the movie, a movie with 2 michael b jordans and increible black characters. In the locked tomb (book with mostly women) Silas and Colum, 2 white charas who are family and don't appear that much in the first book, have more fics than Coronabeth and Judith, a white woman and a black woman who keep appearing in the story and one of them canonically confessed her love to the other. In BG3 there is more fics with MC X Gortash (light skin bad guy that makes a tiny appearance in act 2 and then appears more in act 3) than MC X Wyll (Black guy who is literally one of the main characters in the game that is also impossible to skip, while you can completelly miss Astarion or Gale on accident). In Dragon Age: The Veilguard Davrin (the black guy) was the guy with less fics before the game was out when no one knew the characters so you couldn't judge in writing or content. In the Bridgerton show the most popular ship is the only main one that features 2 white people, etc etc like it just keeps happening and saying "its the source material, fandom just works with what it has" is just not true.

Like when Gandalf spent literal PAGES trying to figure out why the vibes were off in Moria and Legolas chimes in with just "it's a balrog :) that shit's evil :) we're so fucked :)" like what do you MEAN you knew already and just didn't tell him??

Or at the beginning of Two Towers when Aragorn thinks there's something nearby so he puts his ear to the ground to listen, and then like 10 minutes later is like "hmmm i hear horses" and Legolas is just like "mm yep. there are 105 blond bitches with spears" like you just let your friend put his face in the dirt and you can SEE them??

gandalf is scratching his head in moria, and legolas is thinking "oh man, the wizard noticed something off *besides* the obvious balrog that we all are aware of??"