knowledge is power, etc etc

The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner

If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents

When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture.

A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.”

I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future.

Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that.

My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad.

To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time.

⚪️ man

⚪️ woman

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and i am seeking:

⚪️ men

⚪️ women

ada limón, “sway” / “trying”

matthea harvey, “in defense of our overgrown garden”

yanyi, “blessing” / “[when i’m potting the plants]”

ross gay, “a small needful fact” / “letters from two gardens” (co-written with aimee nezhukumatathil)

mary oliver, “the garden”

louise glück, “vespers [in your extended absence, you permit me]” / “october, [I]”

minura fulgeanu, ‘the garden has gone mad”

marge piercy, “the seven of pentacle”

madelon sprengnether, “angel of duluth”

forough farrokhzad, “conquest of the garden”

john allen taylor, “here” (mostly the last lines)

minnie bruce pratt, “the fact of the garden”

theme 02 - withered : preview - one, two / code (updated)

A versatile, colorful theme.

Features

Header or sidebar.

Tumblr style captions.

6 custom fonts to choose from.

Optional colored borders.

Smooth scroll.

Scroll to top button.

Pagination or infinite scroll.

New fixed borders.

New like and reblog buttons.

New manual load.

Notes

Sidebar is 215px x 300px.

New sidebar custom links icons can now be changed within the theme options; first three icons are not inlcuded.

004. Theme - Empyreal ↳ Preview ▪ Code ( Wait for 5 seconds and click ‘Skip Ad’ )

Simple header theme.

Avatar is 120px 120px.

Description, links and search bar popups when you hover over the avatar and click on the initial.

Up to 8 custom links.

Option for 1, 2 or 3 columns.

Option for 250px, 300px, 400px, 500px or 540px posts.

Option to show header.

Option to show title.

Option to show subtitle.

Option to show tags.

Option for inline, hover, default, blockquoted captions, or none. ( It is recommended that you select blockquoted captions if you choose default and inline for hover captions. )

Option for inverted Tumblr controls.

Option for infinite scroll.

Please reblog/like if using. Want a custom theme?

KENYA by suiomi

Full revamp of my theme with the same name from 2017.

Highlights:

Full-height sidebar

Keywords search bar

Normal + masonry layouts

Round + square elements

Modern jump pagination

Options include colours, font sizes, sidebar avatar, round + square elements, normal + masonry layouts.

Image dimensions:

Sidebar avatar: Square.

Found a bug or have a question? Feel free to drop me a message or check Kenya’s support tag.

Notes:

I had some issues with the masonry layout on this theme; if you find any problems with it, please let me know.

To change the navigation icons, go to this site to get the icon’s name.

This theme is not currently adapted for mobile devices.

Here is a masterpost of MOOCs (massive open online courses) that are available, archived, or starting soon. I think they will help those that like to learn with a teacher or with videos.  You can always check the audit course or no certificate option so that you can learn for free.

American Sign Language

ASL University

Sign Language Structure, Learning, and Change

Arabic

Arabic Without Walls

Madinah Arabic

Moroccan Arabic

Armenian

Depi Hayk

Bengali

Learn Bangla (Register to see course)

Catalan

Parla.Cat

Speak Cat

Chinese (Mandarin)

Beginner

Chinese for Beginners

Chinese Characters for Beginners

Chinese for HSK 1

Chinese for HSK 2

Chinese for HSK 3 I & II

Chinese for HSK 4

Chinese for HSK 5

Mandarin Chinese Level I

Mandarin Chinese Essentials

Mandarin Chinese for Business

More Chinese for Beginners

Start Talking Mandarin Chinese

UT Gateway to Chinese

Intermediate

Intermediate Business Chinese

Intermediate Chinese Grammar

Mandarin for Intermediate Learners I

Dutch

Introduction to Dutch

English

Online Courses here

Resources Here

Faroese

Faroese Course

Finnish

A Taste of Finnish

French

Beginner

AP French Language and Culture

Elementary French I & II

Français Interactif

Vivre en France - A1

Vivre en France- A2

Intermediate & Advanced

French Intermediate course B1-B2

Passe-Partout

Travailler en France A2-B1                    

Vivre en France - B1  

German

Beginner

Deutsch im Blick

German Project

German at Work

Goethe Institute

Gwich’in

Introduction to Gwich’in Language

Hebrew

Biblical Hebrew

UT Austin

Hindi

A Door into Hindi

Virtual Hindi

Icelandic

Icelandic 1-5

Indonesian

Learn Indonesian

Irish

Irish 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107

Italian

Beginner

Beginner’s Italian I

Introduction to Italian

Intermediate & Advanced

AP Italian Language and Culture

Intermediate Italian I

Advanced Italian I

Japanese

Genki

Japanese JOSHU

Japanese Pronunciation

Marugoto Courses

Tufs JpLang

Korean

Beginner

First Step Korean

How to Study Korean

Introduction to Korean

Learn to Speak Korean

Pathway to Spoken Korean

Intermediate

Intermediate Korean

Norwegian

Introduction to Norwegian I, Norwegian II

Norwegian on the Web

Persian

Easy Persian

PersianDee

Polish

Online Course

Portuguese

Pluralidades em Português Brasileiro

Russian

Beginner

A1 Course

I speak Russian

Intermediate

B1 Course

B1+ Course

B2.1 Course

B2.2 Course

Spanish

Beginner

AP Spanish Language & Culture

Basic Spanish I, Spanish II

Spanish for beginners  

Spanish for Beginners 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6

Spanish Vocabulary

Advanced

Corrección, Estilo y Variaciones 

Leer a Macondo

Swahili

Online Course

Turkish

Online Course

Ukrainian

Read Ukrainian

Speak Ukrainian

Welsh

Beginner’s Welsh

Discovering Wales

Yoruba

Yorùbá Yé Mi

Multiple Languages

Ancient Languages

More Language Learning Resources & Websites!