trying my best:)

the key to not having a terribly destabilizing moral freak out when you detect abusive traits and behaviors in yourself is to not put abusive people in the category of evil subhuman who can never be absolved or forgiven.

‘relationships are work’ means ‘you have to put effort into loving each other intentionally & learning how to love each other and communicating properly’ not ‘your relationship makes you feel stressed and sad most of the time & the other person disrespects you and treats you bad but you stay anyway’

Someone not responding to you right away does not mean that you’re not important to them. I know it can be hard, but other people are allowed to be busy, or even just not have the energy to respond to you. This doesn’t mean they don’t care about you.

sometimes when you start to heal or deal with certain traumas you experienced in the past, there might be a lot of repressed anger or heavy emotions directed towards people who’ve hurt you or didn’t help you in general. that’s understandable!!!! but then, eventually there comes a point when the focus starts shifting towards yourself, what you need and who you are, who you want to be from now on and what you really deserve. it becomes less & less about these people and they won’t have as much power as they usually did, because your world is more important than what they’ve done.

If you have a big, emotional, self hating meltdown every time someone tells you that you hurt them or crossed a boundary of theirs, then that means you're not a safe person to say no to - and that's something you need to work on. Even if you're genuinely just really upset that you hurt someone, if every attempt at communicating a boundary to you results in the person you hurt having to repeatedly reassure you that you're not actually a bad person, then you need to work on controlling yourself and taking constructive criticism.

you’re going to love again, find a job again, create art again, do what you love again, feel powerful again. you’re going to be back on track. i don’t know when, but you are going to feel like yourself again, eventually. this isn’t the end. hang in there.

gives everyone on tumblr a copy of the dbt skills workbook. yes these things do feel stupid and condescending and childish until you actually start doing them

dbt is a fucking amazing tool. it doesn’t exist to ‘cure’ whatever mental thing you have, it exists to help you cope with the negative effects that mental thing has on your life

doing my damnedest to free myself of the “just gotta get through this week” “only x more days til the weekend” mindset & learn to appreciate each day for whatever it is lest i be driven to madness

so what if tomorrows monday i have leftovers & maybe this week i will make soup. maybe ill see a cat. maybe each day will show me something worthwhile even if im tired & maybe i can enjoy it

if u are negative on this post im blocking u ! some of us are trying to get better

we need to kill all forms of self deprecating humor in 2022. literally eradicate that shit

i’m serious the amount of damage that the half jokey “i-i’m trash and bad at everything hshshshshsj!” mindset has done to the minds of vulnerable mentally ill young people especially young kids and teenagers should be considered a federal crime i think. whoever decided that state of mind is Quirky and Ideal and relatable to spread to impressionable people should be guillotined and gnawed on. no more