I feel like so many (especially young) people here on tumblr were beaten over the head again and again with âbelieve the victims, stop asking them to prove their victimhoodâ and instead of understanding that this means âdonât dogpile victims because you like the abuserâ instead took it to the no-nuance end of the pool and turned it into âif you hear something bad about someone donât go looking for sources or contextâ and those are not the same things
You should look at sources. Always. Taking a moment to say âwait, who said that? what happened?â isnât victim blaming, it isnât siding with an abuser, its taking a step back to understand a whole picture, in its context.Â
When you do this,Â
you are actually a better ally than just knee-jerk, superficial, performative support.
you can approach with nuance.
you can avoid speaking over them, and learn how to be a better, more supportive ally.
you can avoid repeating old claims that have already been either addressed or disproven.
you can avoid propaganda and disinformation, which not only serves to undermine whoever its about, but it undermines everyone else.Â
This post is about political disinformation, but when people get away with making false allegations about abuse or racism or homophobia or any other gross behavior it undermines the positions of actual victims because people who are prone to bad faith can say âah, that was a scam, victims are scammersâ. When you make false claims about politicians, you undermine the political process and allow people who are prone to bad faith to say âsee I donât need to participateâ.
I know we hate checking facts and sources here on the internet, but thatâs the whole point of the internet. Information is available, and you should be checking your sources before you make claims about people.
Considering how many abusers weaponize this exact thing against their victims, itâs even more important to understand the situation in its entirety if you want to avoid âsiding with the abuserâ.

















