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and there was a copy of the OP a bit further down in the replies, here it is

My aunt is a bible-verse dropping in every conversation christian so when she found out my older cousin (MTF 26) was trans, she kicked her out of her home. My parents are also technically christian as in they'll say they're christian on the census but don't go to church unless it's Easter or Christmas, but they chose to let my cousin stay with us.

I (17F) was cool with it, she was staying in the guest bedroom and cleaned up after herself so it wasn't like my life was affected in anyway. But a few weeks back I started to notice that my pads supply was running out faster than I was used to. I have a younger sister (14F) who takes my stuff if she runs out, so I didn't mind, but thought it was a little odd since she doesn't like using pads and prefers tampons. It couldn't be my mother since she got a hysterectomy a year ago. I passed it off as just whatever, but while cleaning out all the bins in the room last week, I found used pads in my cousin's room. I didn't say anything since I figured it would make her feel uncomfortable, and also I felt weird about talking about it?

Anyway, things came to a head when my sister's bralets went missing, and so did a couple of my special underwear (lacy thongs). I had a hunch it wasn't the washing machine eating them, and raided my cousin's room. I found our underwear stashed under her mattress.

My sister didn't want to say anything, but I felt gross and violated. Like even if my sister wore my underwear, I'd be pretty pissed, let alone my cousin who I liked, but we only really ever hung out on family get togethers once every few months. So I told my parents, and my parents reacted more dramatically than I expected?

My parents removed my cousin from our home, and made her couch-surf at my older male cousins. I didn't think my parents would act so harshly, but also I feel like if I stayed silent, I would have felt uncomfortable.

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Marie has been targeted as an expert in the field of biology, and as a feminist, due to her stance that there are only two biological sexes. She is accused of being “transphobic” by prominent twitter accounts. But more worringly, she is being wrongly vilified as a “Holocaust denier”. Marie has spoken about these events and the impact on her life, which you can listen to here: Interview with Marie-Luise Vollbrecht about recent TRA attacks (Women’s Liberation Radio News)

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Women generally live longer than men.

When you get married, you should love someone enough to care for them in their old age.

Because of 1, though, 95% of the time, it’s the husband whose health leaves first, and the wife spends her last years of decent health taking care of him - unable to go on vacations because he needs her, keeping track of his meds/drs appointments/meals, waiting on him hand and foot.

He dies. Then her health goes. And it’s no more lifetime-marriage-partner caring, it’s whatever home health aid the kids could hire. Nobody is making sure she gets to water aerobics and making her appointments for her, nobody is preparing her favorite dish just the way she likes it,

I volunteer at a senior center that has both “outpatient” style water aerobics/chair yoga/bridge clubs/social shit that local seniors still living on their own can attend, plus an assisted living community.

I constantly see the same progression: ailing husband is dragged to the classes and social hours, complaining the whole time. They meet with the assisted living groups. Wife talks about how nice it would be to live here, how hard it is keeping up their house, wouldn’t it be nice to have someone bring you your meds and drive you to the grocery store. Husband insists they don’t need it, but he also seems to need his wife to get up and get everything for him. Wife mentions that she wanted to fly out and see their grandchildren, but her husband needs her, and hiring a temporary aid won’t work because he has to have everything just so. Rinse and repeat, until:

Husband dies, wife gets maybe a year before she moves into retirement home.

I used to think this was just by happenstance, but then we got this older couple. From what the nurses said, they were both pretty big boozehounds, and their health had never really been a priority, so they had to move in earlier than we usually get patients.

I was eavesdropping on their adult kids, who were moving them in, and I heard them complaining that they had to do this. The couple was selling their house, and their son had wanted it, and their daughter was annoyed at how much this was going to cost. No big, we hear a lot of people who get annoyed watching their inheritance dwindle. But then the son goes: “You know, mom is five years younger than him. If she had taken care of herself, she would’ve been able to take care of him.”

And I was like, oh! So mom has to spend her life abstaining from alcohol and getting in 30 minutes of exercise per day, not so that she can take better care of herself and live longer for her, but because you were counting on her to play nursemaid for dad! And suddenly, this seemed a lot less like happenstance that occurred because women live longer than men. It seemed to be a deliberate part of patriarchy.