🇵🇷She/Her, Elder Millennial, teller of stories that I occasionally write down. Original writing content @bellisima-actually-writes
ao3: https://archiveofourown.org/users/Bellisima_writes Header are my beautiful binds from the incredible @Brunheiffer
I try not to fall into the "I never liked their work anyway" ditch when an artist/creator reveals themself to be a terrible person
BUT
a feeling I do have and will stand by is "While I enjoyed their work overall I did have some gripes that I overlooked out of affection and whimsy, but now that my loyalty is gone and my affection tainted there is nothing holding me back from enumerating my many grievances, to which the revelations of the creator's shittiness may or may not provide a new and infuriating context."
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
"it would be so good if it was good" will haunt you but "it's extremely good, except for the one or two parts which are so bad it's genuinely kind of insulting" will straight up drive you insane
one has you making posts like "okay but if the author UNDERSTOOD the POLITICAL IMPLICATIONS of the story they were telling, and leaned into it, it would actually be a really interesting exploration of..."
the other has you pacing your bedroom at one in the morning going "why. why would you ever in a million years do it like that. genuinely what possible thought process was involved. was the writer possessed by a fucking ghost or something."
My experience with Good Omens Season 3 has been interesting. I hated it, find very few redeeming qualities from a story or characterization perspective, that much I've made very clear, so anyone who enjoyed it, please scroll past. This post is not for you.
And anyone who's still really struggling with the grief, please scroll past. I do not wish to inflict anymore pain on anyone than what's already been done.
A cut for good measure.
For me, the finale took the fandom away from me. And I don't mean that in the sense of the divide, or the resentment or anger. I mean, it's made it difficult for me to reblog fanworks, to read fanfic or even find joy in fanart, and even not feel overwhelming guilt when posting about the almost half a million words I've written on AO3. It's taken the part of my brain that once enjoyed this thing and burnt it to ash.
And I want to support my friends who continue to create art and write stories. I want to compulsively reblog them, scream in the comments when I read/see them and support every beautiful person I've met in this fandom. But I can't. It feels as though when I do it I am enabling an abuser, who made promises, lifted the hopes of so many and then cruelly squashed them.
I know disappointment in fandom is common, either in the creators being found out for being trash, the works being filled with problematic themes and takes or just a shitty ending or downturn. But this feels different. It feels like the monster who created this thing destroyed it in the most vicious way to hurt the fans. It feels cruel and deliberate and very personal.
And my mind can't forgive that, even with fanworks that keep this thing relevant and alive.
And I know, separate the art from the artist, but my joy in it has been so extracted that the logical part of my brain now overshadows the other:
You don't need this anymore. You're lucky you can walk away and it won't hurt that badly.
But it does, because I am walking away from a community that I cherish.
So if you read this and you're on my teeny tiny part of the fandom, I guess this is my apology to all of you who have art or fics or anything GO related crossing my dash. I am cheering you on from the sidelines, but my grief has made it extremely difficult to support more than that, and I am very, very sorry.
does the body ALWAYS have to keep the score? maybe we could just have a friendly game this time. maybe we can just have fun without putting numbers on it
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
i hate when ppl act like the only reason to not like a "sad" ending is because you can't take it or whatever. personally as a tragedy enjoyer, i hate a poorly written ending. i hate an ending that is just kind of a bummer. i hate an ending that feels mean-spirited to the audience. i hate an ending that's redundant. i love a sad ending that is thematically consistent, poignant, and bespoke to the rest of its narrative.
One of my favorite series has both the saddest animal death I’ve ever read and has the protagonist and his soulmate die at the end, and it fits the series so well.
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
Okay so you know how people like to make fun of parents who stay home? Bc they’re lazy and just want to sit and watch soap operas and eat bonbons all day (yes I’m aging myself but you know I’m old as dirt). Well, I’ve been looking to return to work and finally have received a real offer (crossing fingers bc who knows anymore) that could potentially pay more than what I made before I had kids. So I’m snatching that shit up so quickly despite the commute and whatever.
BUT I did the calculation on how much I have to spend to work (commute, child care, food, parking passes etc etc.) and I have to give up 2/3 of my net pay for all that. 2/3z.
So, at least in these good old United States, going back to work is a cost. A hefty cost. And some people just can’t fucking afford it.
Recently at a party I was hosting I suggested we play Cards Against Humanity, and while half of the group were teenage girls of color, only one was Black. Due to the nature of the cards in the game, some shocking cards related to stuff like the KKK came up. I haven't actually played the game much, so I didn't realise stuff like that was in there when I brought it out.
Everyone, including the Black girl and, seemed to be having fun and laughing, and I didn't want to make it upsetting by taking it seriously if they all seemed to be having fun. However, looking back on it and reading more about how people respond to racism, I realise it's very possible that people felt like they had to laugh in order to not be ridiculed for being too sensitive, and that by going along with the game I could have putting them in a bad spot.
I think going back into that situation I would stop the game and suggest we did something else when those things came up, because while I know sometimes joking among friends can be fine I don't know these people well enough to be sure that they're within the ranges of comfort. At the same time, I'm worried that might come across as patronizing, and both she and the girl who is really close with her and presumably knew her limits was making jokes too, so maybe she genuinely did find it funny?
Do you have advice on how to handle situations like this? I definitely feel like I should have acted differently, but none of the things I'm coming up with feel like they're much better.
You could have gone up to her in private and asked if she was cool with it. Asking outright in front of everyone might make it even more awkward for her. You know how people get when confronted about racism. If she wasn't, you now know and can tell those other friends later, "hey she wasn't cool and I wasn't cool with it either fr". That spares her the stress of dealing with it. If she was, then all is well.
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
If you have a friend that wants to vent to you but doesn't want solutions but you are a solutions-oriented person, may I suggest Silly Solutions (TM)? For instance, whenever my friend complains about the people at her job being dumb, I remind her that if only one of us had studied engineering, we could create a giant hippo robot with laser eyes to destroy them. It fulfills my need to offer a solution, doesn't violate her boundary of not wanting to problem solve, AND it cheers us both up!
