Bee :)

it's interesting bringing up some transfeminist theory to my drag race watching cis therapist thinking she'll disagree but then she just starts spitting incredible transfeminist truth that would cause 100 years discourse on tumblr.

and you know to be clear these aren't even things I would have said. I mean there's definitely Nuance at the very least. if I were to say the "transitioning into privilege" and "being accepted by patriarchy as men" things myself I'd want to be able to prove them out relatively rigorously, and I haven't done that, so don't take this as me doing a full cosign on these claims. but damn, she did just kind of say them

on the transitioning into privilege thing: I don't tend to say this one because I think it's at least probably not linearly true. my theory of this one is kind of in a fetal development stage but I tend to imagine that coming out as trans is a sharp drop in privilege not immediately outweighed by manhood, but then that passing as a man and performing masculinity start to up one's privilege again. #privilegemath

on the "being happily accepted into patriarchy" thing, my therapist was saying that men tend to be cool with it because it reaffirms that manhood is good and desirable. I hadn't really considered that angle in my own analysis. I usually operate under the assumption that an oppressor class will not be so happy to accept upward movement with open arms, but maybe your average man is not really concerned with gatekeeping manhood as a class, so long as the goodness of masculinity is being affirmed? definitely a thought that's influencing my theory a little

to further roll this spitball, this concept gives me new perspective on transmisogyny. because, even before we transition, I think a lot of us make it obvious, intentionally or otherwise, that masculinity isn't something we aspire to or have a particular interest in performing. through this lens, that would single us out for mistreatment because we embody a disinterest or discomfort with masculinity, which challenges the unquestionable goodness of manhood. and then, when we come out, it becomes a full on attack on the unquestionable goodness of manhood. we spurn the very core assumptions of male supremacy

the state does not need to assign you a sex, nor does it need to keep inalterable record of it btw

the state does not need to assign you a sex, nor does it need to keep inalterable record of it btw

the state does not need to assign you a sex, nor does it need to keep inalterable record of it btw

happy TDOV! you can get this as a shirt

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what's my cologne? insulin (all my omnipods keep leaking)

handing out flyers to transmascs about estradiol cream (can be used to keep your pussy wet and healthy but without triggering periods or having any feminizing effects) and transfemmes about Cialis (works even post-orchi)

and then telling both to start prep too

new blog same sexual health advocate. since making this post i’ve switched from cialis to topical testosterone cream though.

you can take both. i do both now. testosterone cream once a week, Cialis as needed. might start taking the cialis on a regular schedule too.

Adding along for transfemme folks that in addition to an ED medication to encourage continued use and bloodflow, that topical t-gel is not masculinizing, and helps protect the tissue and reduce atrophy, and help keeps the tissue healthy both pre and post-op. It's the same tissue being repurposed post-op, so it's still at risk of atrophy, so the same stuff can help reduce tissue atrophy. That's right, t-gel is helpful even if you plan on getting a neovagina, because "If you're asking a doctor to fold an origami cat, it's best to bring them the highest quality paper." Healthier tissue is easier to work with and more likely to result in a successful surgery. Similarly, as much as a lot of people find it gender affirming, please think carefully about deliberate long-term use of cock-cages -- those kinds that result in substantial shrinkage. If you're looking to get a neovagina, you'll want to avoid prolonged cock cage use for the same reasons-- less tissue, thinner tissue, atrophied tissue, unhealthy tissue, will have poorer outcomes for surgery. Cock cages and the associated shrinking are GREAT for transfemme folks who want to KEEP their bits/don't want surgery, but want to minimize them, keep them small, and to reduce the dysphoria of a larger, more prominent penis. But they can be a setup for FAILURE if one is trying to get a neovagina constructed. Please be safe, and good luck and much love. World may be spooky, but we're all in this shit together. Rooting for you.

For every post discussing fatphobia on here there are 10 skinny people in the notes who have supposedly been encountered by the nefarious "burger man" who tells people to eat more burgers

Egg prime directive basically boils down to "better let a trans woman wallow in misery and die than maybe briefly annoy a cis man" and honestly if that's not the clearest indicator of transmisogyny I don't know what is.

The post broke containment and people are being weird in the reply, so I just want to reiterate : it is always morally correct to let someone know they have the choice to be trans. If you think this constitutes harassment there is something sincerely wrong with the way you see trans people and gender in general.

"only those who have organs that can give birth deserve protections from misogyny" is just thinly veiled "a woman's value comes from her ability to give birth"

women who cannot give birth are treated as valueless and unworthy of protection, and thus face much more aggressive misogyny. misogyny is not only faced by women who can give birth. very far from it

you can tell trans women are women because we're not allowed to be sexual but also everything we do has sexuality imposed upon it

you can tell trans women are women because we're not allowed to be angry

you can tell trans women are women because everyone else thinks they know our bodies, our minds, our experiences, our lives, better than we do

you can tell trans women are women because governments keep trying to legislate away our bodily autonomy

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