Self-care Cheat Sheet - a guide for people who canât do exactly what theyâre supposed to
If you can, go to the gym or go for a run or a bike ride. I know you donât feel like it, but youâll feel better afterwards both physically and mentally.
If you canât go to the gym, exercise in your room. Maybe follow a simple Youtube video or do some exercises you know well with whatever tools you have - and if thatâs all too hard, simply move a bit to some of your favorite songs for a while.
If you canât go for a run, go for a walk. Take your headphones on and listen to music or a podcast while walking to make it less boring, or maybe bring one of your friends! It doesnât have to be a long walk. Even if youâre only outside for 10 minutes the fresh air and movement will do you good and clear your mind.
If you canât go for a walk or exercise otherwise, stand up and do some stretches and walk around your room for a little while. Your body will appreciate a break from sitting at your desk or lying in your bed even if itâs a short one.
If you canât move that much, just open your window and enjoy some fresh air.
If you can take a shower (even though itâs hard!), do it. You will feel so much better when your hair is not greasy and when you arenât smelly and sweaty. If you can force the energy, it will be worth the effort.
If you canât do a full shower routine, simply step into the shower and wash your crotch, ass and armpits. Forget about your hair and forget about shaving. Just quickly wash the most smelly parts. Youâll feel a lot better afterwards.
If you canât take a shower, wipe your crotch, ass and armpits with wet wipes and then apply deodorant and dry shampoo. Itâll take the worst of the smell and will make you look and feel significantly cleaner.
If you canât clean yourself at all, at least change out of your dirty clothes and put something comfortable and clean on. Itâll help you feel better.
If you can, brush your teeth for 2 minutes twice a day. I know itâs hard to find the energy and the motivation, but you need to do everything in your power to take care of your teeth. They wonât care whether you have a good reason not to brush them and dental care is often expensive.
Doing it once a day is not a failure and is still a whole lot better than not brushing them! But if you struggle to brush as often as recommended, I recommend investing in an electric toothbrush to make each brushing more effective.
If you canât brush your teeth for two minutes, brush them for 1 minute or 30 seconds. A short brushing is also still a lot better than nothing!
If you donât like tooth paste, brushing your teeth without it is still better than not brushing them.
If you donât like the texture of the tooth brush, look into tooth brushes for kids or surgical tooth brushes which are a lot softer.
If you canât brush your teeth at all, use a wet wash cloth whenever you can to gently wipe the worst plague build up off your teeth.
If you canât do that, invest in some mouth wash and gurgle it once a day or buy some of the gum which helps cleaning your teeth and keeping your breath fresh.
If you currently donât have the energy to do anything for your teeth, at least try to limit your soda and sugar intake so that your lack of brushing wonât be too dangerous.
If you can, cook a proper meal. Your body will appreciate you for providing it with the energy it needs to function optimally. If cooking is boring, put on a podcast, a show or some music - or maybe call or invite a friend.
If you canât cook and you can afford it, order some takeaway. It may feel like a waste of money, but feeding yourself is never a waste and you will feel better once your body gets some nutrients. It doesnât even have to be the healthiest option. Any food is better than no food.
If you canât cook or order takeaway, make something very simple. A boring sandwich or instant noodles or a toast will provide you with some energy even if it isnât that fun or enjoyable to eat.
If you canât make a sandwich, just eat some bread or some deli meats or maybe some fruit or vegetables separately. You donât have to actually make the sandwich in order for the meal to count.
If you canât make a sandwich, eat whatever you have. An apple is better than nothing. A couple slices of cheese are better than nothing. An old chocolate bar is still a lot better than nothing. A dry slice of bread isnât fun to eat but it is STILL better than nothing. So is a bag of chips.
If you canât make yourself eat just anything, eat whatever you have (or are able of acquiring and capable of eating). Yes, even if itâs chocolate or ice cream or chips. Itâs good to eat healthy when you can, but when itâs a question between not eating at all or eating something unhealthy, unhealthy food always beats an empty stomach. Yes, even if itâs the same things you ate yesterday and the day before.
If you consistently struggle to get enough food down, look into meal replacement shakes/bars and dietary supplements of various kinds. Maybe get some blood work done by your doctor to see what vitamins your diet might be lacking.
(If you have a friend, a partner or a family member who you know likes cooking or who you know has a lot of money donât be afraid to ask them for help. Iâm sure they wouldnât mind bringing you some leftovers, cooking for you or borrowing you some money for something youâd actually be able to eat if youâre out of other options.)
If youâre tired and you can, go to bed. Especially if itâs late. Especially if youâre feeling particularly unwell. You cannot function optimally if you do not get a decent amount of sleep, so instead of staying up all night feeling shitty about yourself, put your phone down and get some rest.
If you canât go to bed, have a nap. Set a timer for when you need to get back on track and allow yourself some rest. You do not have to power through the whole day just because you technically could. Itâs okay to take 20 minutes or two hours to catch up on sleep if youâre feeling exhausted, especially if you didnât get enough sleep last night.
If you canât sleep at all, just lie down and close your eyes and rest for as long as you can. Studies have shown that even if you donât sleep, lying down and letting your body and brain rest for a while helps you a lot. If itâs too boring, put on a podcast or music or something. But lie down. Close your eyes. Allow yourself to do nothing.
If you canât sleep at all for several days, see a doctor and look into options for medical treatment. Sleep is important and if you consistently canât get any, you need to act on it and try out various treatment options.
Socializing and connecting:
If you can, invite a friend, a partner, a family member, an acquaintance or anyone you like over. Have a nice talk with them or simply do something together. You may feel like isolating yourself is easier, but us humans are social beings and most of us need regular social interaction to thrive. (Maybe ask for a hug if you want one, physical contact can help a lot on your mood!)
If you live with someone, spend some time with them. Even if theyâre not your favorite person and youâre not that close, having a conversation about something superficial is still a lot better than having no conversations. Who knows - maybe they can actually be pretty good company if you take the time to talk to them for more than two minutes! If talking is too hard, maybe ask them to play a game or watch a movie with you - or simply spend some time in the same room as them while doing your separate things. (Obviously you can disregard this tip if you live with toxic or abusive people!)
If you live alone and canât get anyone to come over right now, give someone a call. Video chat if phone calls make you too anxious.
If that is too much, send someone you care about a text/message. Ask them what theyâre doing. Tell them that you miss them. While talking to someone online or through texts isnât exactly the same as actually talking to them, it will still help remind you that you arenât alone and that thereâs people who care about you.
If you donât know who to text and donât have a lot of friends, look into what opportunities you have for meeting new people. Maybe thereâs a discord server for people who you have something important in common with. Maybe thereâs a support group for people with the same mental or physical health issues as you nearby. Maybe you can find some lessons or meet ups for people who share your interests. Look into it.
If you need to talk to someone, anyone, donât be afraid to reach out. Call that help line. Text that person you miss. Send an ask or a DM to that tumblr blogger you like. I promise you that even if you arenât close to a lot of people right now, someone will be willing to listen and care. You just have to reach out.
(If you have a pet, cuddle it and play with it! Physical affection is physical affection regardless of whether itâs coming from a human or a dog. Friendship is still friendship if the two beings sharing it arenât from the same species!)