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i think completely pre transition trans people should be able to wear one tiny little pronoun pin and get gendered correctly every time. i think cis people should be transitioning just for the fun of it if they want to. i think you should be able to walk into any pharmacy and just buy hrt. i think that little boys should be able to sit in circles and play with dolls and paint each other's nails and make friendship bracelets. i think that little girls should be able to play with flaming monster trucks and play football and get competitive over video games. i think that arson (he/it/paw) should have paw's identity respected and treated as completely normal. i think that we should normalize neopronouns and weird genders and being weird or unusual in general. you should be able to explain your weird one of a kind xenogender to the least queer person on the planet and they should say "oh that's cool!! haven't heard of that gender before". you should be able to wear a tail in public you should be able to make out with your computer if you want i don't fucking care. i love transgenders i love neurodivergent people i love furries i love everyone outside the norm i love freaks i love nerds i love everyone.
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Genuinely the greatest experience Iāve had at a hotel was when I was sharing a room with my sibling and as we were flipping through channels we came across a marathon of Law and Order SVU episodes. Instead of just watching it normally we muted it and added our own dialogue so instead of a crime show it was about the main characters being in a local band and trying to navigate the local punk music scene while also apparently solving crimes. It was the funniest fucking thing ever and Iām sad we never recorded it because it was amazing
throughout the late 2000s and early 2010s, our generation was inundated with aave. it eclipsed lolcat as the "funny way to talk." ain't nobody got time fo dat turns into dat boi o shit waddup. this is blatantly not an "aracial" or "gen z" way to talk. it IS black english. not to mention the amount of black reaction images!!
WHY, specifically, is it black peoples' facial expressions that are seen as just so comical or exaggerated? analyze the history of this nation's comedy and tell me why you might be predisposed to thinking of black peoples' faces as just, "more emotive" or exaggeratedly funny than a white or nonblack person's
and throughout those years, 00s-10s, many black bloggers -- victims of the mass staff-led purge (under the cover of them being 'russian' while reichblr still exists) -- they DID tell us it was a problem, DID try to educate people who freak out at the insinuation of 'being racist,' DID argue, DID point out the duplicity and the appropriation and the gross equivalence of african american slang with unintelligence, goofiness, etc. and they were ignored, abused, cancelled, chased off, until being eventually mass deleted by our racist transmisogynistic staff.
we didn't do enough, and the generation after us gen z "kids" didn't stop the trend. using the '-ahh' suffix. rizz. no cap. ate. delulu. it's giving. it's serving. crash out. lock in. aura. tea. main character. bruh. slay. real. keep it 100.
all of the following images are or were popular reaction images! what do they all have in common?
it feels like the effort to categorize slang as AAVE and not 'gen z' or 'gen alpha' slang has really petered out. it feels like we stopped talking about digital blackface in an era where the administration is posting ai-generated videos of black women who speak and act like exaggerated stereotypes and it frustrates me because we all have a responsibility to understand our generation's role in normalizing this type of racist shit for kids today. this needs to be addressed!
Black people will never stop talking about this, but when we are on sites such as Tumblr, where so many of the white people feel that not only are they not racist, but that calling their racist behavior racist is emotional warfare on them, they will make sure to keep Black voices as silenced as possible.
Also, a lot of the Black people who got deleted or run off of the site weren't even accused of any type of Russian anything. A lot of them were just run the fuck off by the white Tumblr base on harassment shit.
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I think itās normal for people to be mad at each other sometimes even if theyāre close friends or family or intimate with each other. Like I think thatās a normal and healthy part of relationships that can happen sometimes
I went to Mad At You island because my feelings are my problem. I needed to stomp down the beach until I could sit and watch the sunrise. I built a sandcastle and did some thinking. Then I boarded the good ship You Matter To Me and sailed it all the way to meet you on the Letās Talk Shore of I Love You Island.
the problem with autism is sometimes you want to do something (brave) but you need someone to gently walk you through each step so you know what will happen. and people donāt like doing that
every time i see this post i think of that person who posted on reddit that they wanted to go to subway for the first time but they were scared they would say the wrong thing so someone gave them step by step instructions for the entire process and what all the choices would be and when they would ask what question and i just think
someone will
someone out there will see you and say "yes. the world is scary. but let me hold your hand and show you how to do it anyways"
everyone needs that someone, and everyone can be that someone
The subreddit r/explainlikeimscared is a surprisingly good resource for this. People are always very kind and thorough from what I've seen, and I spend a decent amount of time there giving walkthroughs and answering questions when I know the process.
the role of the person in the passenger seat is not only navigator but secretary as well. you have to type up the drivers messages to random ladies on facebook about cbd cream & google whether that billy joel song was the theme song for that show or not
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[Image description: a Reddit comment by u/Glittering-Step6037 which says "I cut out teeny pictures and show them to my betta. Once he seems interested in a few, I tape them to his tank so he has his own art to look at (hint, cooler colors and things that wouldnt be mistaken for eyes are perfect, mine actually like geometric designs and two colors stacked i also try to spend time letting him get to know my voice and face, sometimes ill bring home plants or new stones or gems and sit at my tank just talking to him calmly the whole time. I just say out loud little stories or what im actively doing and why, etc etc. Since fish hear you via feeling the vibrations through the water, I try to speak like how I would want a wall of vibrations to have a smooth ripple instead of sudden and choppy. Also, dry erase markers. Sometimes I draw a little house with windows or little "maze" parts or plants or just interesting shapes for him to follow and inspect. Also, before I add a new plant or anything, I will hold it up against the glass for him to check out, then I place it i slowly. He waits so nice and watches then when im out of the water he will go and touch it."]
I think cis people should also be their gender of choice. Like, if you're a man, you should get to really enjoy being a man- have fun with it! If you're a woman, take the parts of womanhood that really deeply make you happy. If being a little androgynous or ambiguous or hidden is the part that really makes you happy, you don't have to be trans for that. If you wanna lean really hard into being femme or masc- do it! You have one life in your body, do what makes you happy. Ditch the stuff you don't like.
My sinister queer agenda is I think that everyone should be the gender they like in the way they like it.
One time a friend told me that if she wanted to have a chill night she would come to me and ask for tea and a book to read. I didnāt like tea at the time, but I always made sure my cupboards had them in case she needed a quiet night. One time I told my boss that I loved oranges, but couldnāt peel them because of my nails. For a year he made sure to peel me one at least once a week. Once my friends gave me a made up superlative of āmost likely to have a pen they could borrowā and ever since Iāve made sure I always carry a pen with me. A long time ago, my high school librarian told me that no one would care what my grade in my sophomore chemistry class was if Iām bringing them doughnuts and asking them about their day.
Sometimes friendship is about carrying pens and peeling oranges. But the point is, surrounding yourself with people who you want to do the little things for. The point of it all is bringing in the doughnuts because youāve found the people who deserve the doughnuts.
"making them afraid will make them more racist" that's wild to me, because we live in a whole culture of social consequences for antiracism anyway. It is literally safer to be a racist than it is to speak up against it, socially.
Idk about you, but "I'm afraid no one will want to be my friend if I'm a white supremacist" seems like a pretty logical thought process to have, and I wish THAT were the normal and not "I'm afraid my friends will hate me if I tell them they made racist jokes".
If My Boss Texts Me After Hours, It Is My Cultural Right to Kill Them
Usually, I appreciate English for its artistic freedom, the way it lets you play with words. I love that the word ābreakageā is a thing, I love that you can turn any body part into a verb by slapping ātoā in front of it and then getting a little nasty, et cetera. It is rare that I actually complain about words English doesnāt have. Famously, I grieve for āGuten Appetitā, the German version of ābon appetitā that exists in many languages in some way, but not in English. Earlier today, I was complaining to my spouse, not for the first time, about the lack of direct translation for āTreppenhausā. The literal translation is stair house, and the internet is currently telling me that āstairwellā is the English word Iām looking for. I guess it is translatable, then. Thatās fine, this was all just supposed to be a lead-up to another word anyway, one that really doesnāt have a proper English translation:
Feierabend!
Clunky English translations include closing time, quitting time, but also after-hours, off-hours, and of course the clunkiest, end of the work day.
So, the first question burning on my mind is:
Does your language have a singular word for this?
yes! and i will now tell you
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Feierabend is a genuinely important part of German culture, and a treasured word among many of us. It is so salient that there is a BBC article about it. So whatās it mean?
Well,
it is closing time, and itās also after hours. Feierabend begins when you clock out of work, and then it keeps going. Maybe until you go to bed, maybe until you clock back in the next day. Depends on how you feel about Feierabend.
The BBC article calls Feierabend a portmanteauāitās not. Thatās not what a portmanteau is. Feierabend is a compound word. The easiest translation of āFeierā would be party, but the better translation would be celebration, or festivity. āAbendā means evening. A holiday, in German, is called āFeiertagā, so the same word but with day rather than evening. So itās a day of festivities. The Abend in Feierabend originally had a similar function to āeveā, making Feierabend mean that it was the evening before a holiday. Or: the time when you stop working and start observing whatever religious holiday you were meant to be observing, back when this word came into being.
Okay, thatās the theory. Today, I prefer reading Feierabend as party evening. Itās the time when I stop working and start partying.
And itās the time when everybody else starts partying, of course. āFeierabendbierā is a fully recognized term in this language and culture of mine. Iām gonna let you work out what that means yourself.
Since many people tend to have Feierabend (quick detour: āIch habe Feierabendā, lit. āI have Feierabendā, means that youāre already done with work. āIch mache Feierabendā, lit. āIām making/doing Feierabendā, means that you are actively deciding to be done with work this instant) at the same time, we have another widely recognized term: Feierabendverkehr. Verkehr meaning traffic. Yeah, hereās your intimidating looking German compound word of the day, itās evening rush hour traffic.
While researching this, I also learned that the East and West German word for a retirement home used to be, respectively, Feierabendheim and Feierabendhaus. (Heim and Haus being the equivalent of home and house.) Which I find kind of sweet? Nowadays, theyāre just called Altenheim, so old people home. I find it much more charming to stress that these people are done with work, and they will continue to be done with work. What is retirement, really, if not just a really really long Feierabend?
And there is one more endearing thing I learned: Back when roof tiles (Ziegel) were made by hand, there existed something called the Feierabendziegel. That was the last roof tile that was made for the day, and you could tell because the workers would draw or write stuff on the underside. Hereās a picture from Wikipedia, by Andreas Praefcke:
They were also called GlĆ¼cksziegel, GlĆ¼ck meaning luck. :)
So thatās Feierabend! One of my favorites, and one I miss dearly in other languages. As a reminder, please do feel free to let me know if your language has something similar, and if yes, what it is! I would be very excited to learn.
And until then, I shall leave you all with one last fact, which is that it is entirely valid and widely understood by Germans if you declare your having finished your work by the word alone, no sentence structure needed.
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"you can be 15 years old and also a terrible person" teenagers do stupid shit all the time, adults do stupid shit all the time, what matters is that you learn about that and that you don't let that define you. you are figuring out yourself and you never really stop doing that.
this is a thing i saw on tiktok and it's been bothering me forever and ever. okay yeah you took bad decisions/hurted people/etc. but that doesn't mean that you're destinated to hurt people or to be a bad person forever and ever. perhaps at the moment you thought what you were doing was good. perhaps you were trying to protect yourself. perhaps you just didn't know any better. perhaps you thought that it wouldn't be that bad. whatever thing you've might've done on the past doesn't define you in any sort of way. you are a human being and you will do a lot of mistakes until you die. putting yourself down won't help on anything. others putting you down doesn't mean anything. don't let your mistakes be something that defines you, but let them be a reminder that you're still here and that you can grow as a person.
I.
Mother says there are locked rooms inside all women; kitchen of lust,
bedroom of grief, bathroom of apathy.
Sometimes the men -- they come with keys,
and sometimes, the men -- they come with hammers.
II.
Nin soo joog laga waayo, soo jiifso aa laga helaa,
I said Stop, I said No and he did not listen.
III.
Perhaps she has a plan, perhaps she takes him back to hers
only for him to wake up hours later in a bathtub full of ice,
with a dry mouth, looking down at his new, neat procedure.
IV.
I point to my body and say Oh this old thing? No, I just slipped it on.
V.
Are you going to eat that? I say to my mother, pointing to my father who is lying on the dining room table, his mouth stuffed with a red apple.
VI.
The bigger my body is, the more locked rooms there are, the more men come with keys. Anwar didnāt push it all the way in, I still think about what he could have opened up inside of me. Basil came and hesitated at the door for three years. Johnny with the blue eyes came with a bag of tools he had used on other women: one hairpin, a bottle of bleach, a switchblade and a jar of Vaseline. Yusuf called out Godās name through the keyhole and no one answered. Some begged, some climbed the side of my body looking for a window, some said they were on their way and did not come.
VII.
Show us on the doll where you were touched, they said.
I said I donāt look like a doll, I look like a house.
They said Show us on the house.
Like this: two fingers in the jam jar
Like this: an elbow in the bathwater
Like this: a hand in the drawer.
VIII.
I should tell you about my first love who found a trapdoor under my left breast nine years ago, fell in and hasnāt been seen since. Every
now and then I feel something crawling up my thigh. He should make himself known, Iād probably let him out. I hope he hasnāt
bumped in to the others, the missing boys from small towns, with pleasant mothers, who did bad things and got lost in the maze of
my hair. I treat them well enough, a slice of bread, if theyāre lucky a piece of fruit. Except for Johnny with the blue eyes, who picked my locks and crawled in. Silly boy, chained to the basement of my fears, I play music to drown him out.
IX.
Knock knock.
Whoās there?
No one.
X.
At parties I point to my body and say This is where love comes to die. Welcome, come in, make yourself at home. Everyone laughs, they think Iām joking.
