Woman First

— A Burst of Light: Essays by Audre Lorde (via drziggystardust)

Agreed. As radfems we should be willing to be critical of “studies.” Who wrote them, who funded them, how did they draw their conclusions? Men have published hundreds of studies on female sexuality that are downright stupid. I read an article on one where a study asked what was the biological reason we “evolved” to perform cunnilingus (as a species) that basically surveyed a) only surveyed men and b) did not seemed concerned about fellatio. I forgot what they concluded but it was stupid. It’s a stupid question to begin with.

I think that we all struggle to figure ourselves out and that as long as you’re never using those labels for anything other than finding yourself there’s nothing wrong with taking your time or being uncertain. That being said, I personally think that trying to figure out how you feel about men is only going to hurt you. If you know you like women, there’s no reason to “try men” just to be sure. If you find that you are attracted to men and that you’re bisexual, that still doesn’t mean that you have to act on those feelings. Men are the biggest threat to womens’ health, happiness, and safety. There are bisexual women who only date other women, and the term for that is feb (female-exclusive bisexual) or febfem (though there seems to be some disagreement as to whether that is meant to indicate the sex of someone identifying as feb or the politics) so if you’re uncertain of your attraction to men and feel like using the lesbian label may be offensive or inaccurate, you can always call yourself that, either in the interim or permanently. My best advice though is to never force yourself into any physical or sexual circumstances to discover your feelings, and to not stress too much about men. Our entire upbringing from before we were even out of the womb has told us to love men, please men, exist for men. Many lesbians struggle with comphet because of this and find it harder to identify their true feelings. The truth is only you will be able to figure it out, but in the long run, it’s just going to be a word. Your sexuality already exists in it’s natural form and it’s not going to up and change on you. If you feel genuine attraction to both sexes, you’re bisexual and always have been. If you only feel attraction to women, you’re a lesbian and you always have been. Regardless of what you end up discovering about yourself, remember that you do not owe anyone the benefit of the doubt or a chance unless you decide that. And always, always stay safe if you ever decide to date men. Please please stay safe

this is low quality but i needed to create it

women loving and desiring female bodies only is not dirty, it’s not disgusting, it is beautiful. stop shaming lesbians and febfems (or just bisexual women who want pussy) for their private sexuality.

literally I would forgo dildos forever if I had to rely on a man to clean them. but they think they’re more appealing than a woman with a strap?? haha Wrong

fake fans smfh

fucking can’t wait to be ignored by men so I can get on with my life tbh

but think about why you’re attacking women for making “bad choices” and maybe have some fucking empathy idk.

Fuck, send just your teenage diaries to your parents and ask them to publish them 100% untouched under your real name 😊🥰 Why not? It’s ~HISTORICAL ACCURACY~