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Please know we want to help and you are NOT alone.

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FUCKIN YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

no BULLSHIT I KID YOU NOT! Look what I found while walking Home…..

OH MY GOD

OH MY F*CKIN GOD

THIS POST FUCKIN WORKS?!?!?! THIS IS PAST A COINCIDENCE NO WAY!??! NO FRIGGIN WAY!!! 

Nine times out of ten, you are not responsible for your sub’s emotional state. Maybe the day has become challenging in a way that’s overwhelming for them. Maybe something has happened that has triggered emotional upheaval. Whatever it is about, if it isn’t about you and your relationship, you need to remind yourself that you cannot control your sub’s emotional state, and NOT put yourself in a similar state when attempting to help her. You need to let go of this idea that because she has given you control, you now should be able to magically snap your fingers and make her all good again when the shit hits the fan. You can’t change or control her emotional state like that, and to make yourself crazy about it is a help to neither you, or your sub.

What you can do, is implement strategies and methods that are likely to help her harness her chi and come back to herself. What you can do, is remain calm and communicative, to remind your sub that you are there, that they are not alone, and to let them see your strength and control. 

When your sub loses control of their emotions, you need to go the other way. Counterbalance their fear and sadness with your strength, their confusion with your focus, and their turbulent heart, with your focused mind. 

Before vs After Adoption