I'm just me.

Ace Fact Image Set (Part 2 of 2)

[ ID: An image set with the demisexual flag, a crumpled paper background, and a gray square in the top left with different facts. Each fact is labeled with a number in the bottom right.

“#06 Ace Fact: Demisexual people don’t think they’re better than allosexuals. Not experiencing sexual arousal until I have a close, emotional bond isn’t something I choose and doesn’t mean I think I’m better than other people. It’s just how I’m wired.”

“#07 Ace Fact: Demisexuality is different than being allosexual. There’s a difference between being sexually attracted to someone vs. wanting to have sex with them. Allosexuals can experience that attraction but can choose to wait; demisexuals just don’t experience that attraction until there’s a close, emotional bond.”

“#08 Ace Fact: Demisexual people still experience stigma like asexual people. Our relationship with asexuality is different, but we still experience stigma, alienation, and the messages that we are abnormal or broken. It’s important for demisexual people to have a place in the ace community.”

“#09 Ace Fact: Demisexuals need a close, emotional bond to experience sexual attraction. This is based on our own personal experiences and is slightly different for everyone. Emotional intimacy is often a main component.”

I've created this survey and was wondering if you'd be happy to share it around so that I could gather responses from aces who both do and don't experience fetishes.

Would you be happy to spread this around? Thanks for your time :)

Thanks for sharing with us!

This is a server recommended to us via a follower. Here’s a link to many other discord servers tagged as asexual:

Again, sex is not a ‘need.’

hello! ace people get so much shit so i thought i would give you some reminders :^)

👏ASEXUALITY IS THE LACK OF SEXUAL ATRACTION👏THAT BEING SAID, ACE PEOPLE DONT OWN YOU CELIBACY👏WE CAN LIVE OUR SEXUALITY HOWEVER WE WANT TO, WITHOUT HAVING TO EXPLAIN JACK SHIT👏

not even (x)?

you're missing out on so much.

that must be great not having to deal with the bad ones.

did something happen to you?

can they fix it?

libido: body says NOW

to be as close as possible to a partner

physical activity

boredom / to pass time

hormone spikes known as libido / sex drive

trying things out

the physicality of sex sort of evolved feel nice so even without sexual attraction there is the possibility that it will feel nice

making a partner happy makes people feel happy as well

asexuals’ relationship with sex and sexual attraction tends to be….complicated. there’s a bit of an idea of like, oh of course, you’re either sex-favorable, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed, but honestly i see a LOT of discussion about how wildly different those can each look for each individual. some people are comfortable with some acts in very specific contexts, and deeply upset by them in all others. some people find certain forms of nonsexual intimacy (like kissing) to still be off-limits, while something most people might consider more charged (like nudity) is totally fine. a lot of us just kind of have a long laundry list like “this is fine, this isn’t, that one’s okay, that one’s always off-limits….” because the big secret is that “sex” isn’t really any cohesive act as much as a lot of little things that people just threw together and called one thing.

as for attraction: some aces are actually attracted to other people once in a blue moon, and simply don’t want to clarify that every time. some aren’t entirely sure, but don’t want to spend their whole lives guessing. some ARE completely sure they never have and never will feel an attraction.

It is such an individual thing and people try to force all aces into 3 categories (sex favorable/neutral/repulsed) but I could fit into either one of those depending on day/situation/intimate activity...