Avant Garden

oh yes! there is! first, let me explain a couple things

POLY- poly means many, but not allMONO- mono means one, singular-GAMY - gamy means marriage, legally or not-AMORY - amory means romance, relationship-FIDELITY - fidelity means faithful, exclusive

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So, let me explain them:

MONOGAMY: a marriage in which you are dedicated to one other person, no one elseMONOAMORY: a relationship in which you are dedicated to one other person, no one elseCHEATING: a relationship in which you do not tell your partner that you are seeing another person. even if you are sure they wouldnt mind, not telling your partner is cheating! cheating CAN happen in a poly- relationship, it still can have disastrous effects, it doesnt matter!DON’T ASK DON’T TELL: a relationship in which your partner is aware that you are seeing someone on the side, and they dont mind, they dont bring it up, they dont want to know who it is, its a secret between the three of youOPEN RELATIONSHIP: a relationship in which your partner approves and allows you to have one-night stands with a person on the side. said person could be a mutual friend, or a stranger, and your partner likes to be kept up-to-date on whats happening.POLYGAMY: a marriage in which you are dedicated to more than one person, everyone in the marriages are aware and approves of the other people involved, you can marry an additional person if you wish and the others approve POLYAMORY: a relationship in which you are dedicated to more than one person, everyone in the relationship is aware and approves of the other people involved, you can date an additional person if you wish and the others approvePOLYFIDELITY/POLYEXCLUSIVITY: a relationship in which you are dedicated to more than one person and they too are dating each other. everything is mutual and everyone is aware of everyone. if you wish to date an additional person, the others of the relationship must agree, approve, and also be in a relationship with themSOLO POLYAMORY: a relationship in which you are dating more than one person, but you do not want to move in, do not want to marry, you want to be on your own and have your own space and your own time to yourselfRELATIONSHIP ANARCHY: yeah, this ones great, fucking hilarious, woo!!HIERARCHICAL POLY-[blank]: in which one partner is more important than any others EGALITARIAN POLY-[blank]: in which all partners are equal to each other

so, for me? im Egalitarian Polyfidelity. i have three partners, they are all aware of each other, they are dating each other, and i love them all equally.

Finn Butler, From The Wreckage (via thoughtkick)

make lots of lists

make your bed

send lots of emails and only cry maximum 5 minutes before making phone calls

scream only mildly internally when strangers talk to you