Rest, if you must, but donât you quit
I recently submitted my Masterâs thesis for examination (thank you, Jesus; thank you, chocolate cake) and of all the milestones I crossed in this journey, I am possibly proudest of⌠constructing a Samoan fale out of MS PowerPoint shapes in under 10 mins with zero prior planning.
Figure 1. How to PowerPoint: More diagram, less written words. #AllDay
Look at that tiny fale in the middle. Although bulbous, so profesh. You might even say âproportionalâ. My supervisor from Spatial Design didnât cry in shame or despair; it could be that he was just sparing my feelings â and thatâs fine with me.
I somewhat foolishly decided to submit for examination, and present my research to an international network of Pasifika scholars via videoteleconference at the same time. I didnât have to do this, but when the invitation came, I decided I owed it to everyone who had helped me, and to pay it forward for anyone else who could benefit, as I once did. Thatâs how we do.
Even so. There will be times in life when you suspect youâre setting yourself on fire, but a weirdly quixotic voice thatâs grown stronger with every challenge stirs like Henry V and decides, âOnce more unto the breach.â
Three minutes before my presentation, I was still completing my slides in MS PowerPoint:
Figure 2. Time management, the story of my life.
I do not share this to brag. This was f*cking painful. The only reason why my heart didnât implode in my chest was because Iâd done this countless times before (writing down to the wire) and trusted in that experience to get me through. Also, the last time I bemoaned to my dad, âWhy am I like this???â, he beamed and patted my knee like I was still seven, saying, âYouâre just like Daddy.â What a bonding moment.
I started this Masterâs journey with advice, and Iâm going to end it the same way. So, a few lessons I would like to draw out, that you may learn from my battle scars:
1)Â Â Â Â Â Pray/Meditate. Be consciously grateful and never take for granted whatever humble blessings got you to where you are now: your family, that one person who believed in you, or your stubborn as attitude. Do not underestimate the motivational power of gratitude.
2)Â Â Â Â Â Donât stop looking after yourself. Walk and choose the healthy meal when you can. Youâll feel like you donât have the time or the luxury, but it is even more important for your mental and physical health when youâre close to the finishing line.
3)Â Â Â Â Â Always overestimate how much time youâll need. Always.
4)Â Â Â Â Â If anyone should ever grieve to you about how much sleep theyâre losing, work theyâre doing, and makes it sound like a war ballad â walk away now. If itâs anything less than a therapeutic venting exercise to get on with the job, theyâre wasting precious time that you could be eating, working, sleeping, or attending faâalavelave (I joke, but really). Sometimes I was so tired, I would hallucinate conversations with my pillow.
PILLOW: âNobody loves you more than me.â
PILLOW: âImagine cuddling down to me and sweet prayers.â
ME: âAs I lay me down to sleep, thank you for this pillow I keep. ZzzzâŚ.â
5)Â Â Â Â Â Push yourself to push yourself. The first time I ever heard this, it was probably a translation error and I laughed too long, too inconsiderately loud â but truthfully. Push yourself outside your comfort zones, beyond what you think you can handle, toward those challenges that make you sick and nervous. Itâs the only way youâll grow and realise how much youâre capable of.
6)Â Â Â Â Â And always schedule time to recover. Relieved crying, passing out. Taking over childrensâ playgrounds are all acceptable.
7)Â Â Â Â Â At the end of such a drawn-out saga as a degree, you must celebrate or punctuate it in some way so your brain can recognise it is the end of an era. At a subconscious level, this readies yourself for transition. Also, you deserve it. Iâm glad I was forewarned by Thesislink of the common depression that can set in after submitting your thesis. I averted it by presenting and then having a celebratory dinner with my family. I go hard, then I go home, and then I sleep for two weeks. I would have preferred more time between submission and presentation, but we work with what we have, so â
8)Â Â Â Â Â Just get it done. Whatever your challenge, it doesnât need to end perfectly. Just make sure youâve given your task the best effort you could, and that you learned something. Then you can close that chapter with no regrets, youâve already earned the lesson, and whatever grade comes back is incidental. The real world doesnât care about grades, only your attitude, your experience, and your ability â and willingness â to keep improving.
9)Â Â Â Â Â Pay it back. The odds are that you didnât get here by yourself. Never underestimate the future value or the power of giving back.
10)Â Pay it forward. Everyone flailed as you once did. This is not just about making yourself feel good. This is about balance and lightening our collective load. Share what you know. Weâll get more done, and weâll do it better.
 In conclusion / TL;DR, yes, everyone should absolutely do postgraduate studies at some point in their life, because you will regret nothing (except how much sleep youâll lose and forgetting what your loved ones look like) and the world needs a greater diversity of The Everyone building this thing called Knowledge. Knowledge is not only gained or formed in universities, but what better way to change the traditional notion than from inside the traditional systems? Choose what you love, what terrifies and excites you. Come study it. Upset people (including yourself). Make peace. Struggle. Win.
Youâre allowed to feel like giving up sometimes. Let yourself sit within the moment, and then remind yourself of all the reasons why you must get it done instead. Thereâs only one of you, and the world needs what youâve got.
 When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quitâŚ
 Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.