*mario party voice* Trans Time!

Recognise that people can change.

There is a difference between “I don’t feel comfortable being around you anymore so I’m leaving/blocking/not interacting” and making a fucking harassment blog because you don’t like someone.

Don’t start becoming someone’s fucking jailer, locking them out of public life, because they did something bad. And even if she hasn’t apologised yet, or has no remorse? Just block. Don’t start badgering someone because you think you’re morally correct, because you’ve never “done anything wrong”.

Harassment and stalking are wrong. Why are you interacting with blogs that offend you, or are by people who you feel morally correct in shitting on?

Like I have watched callout videos before, where it’s just 20 minutes of “this lady was being annoying” (or it’s just an autistic person not phrasing things in a perfect manner) which is just an excuse to start looking into her personal accounts, and then make fun of her kinks.

It’s just stalking, harassment, and bullying. And a lot of these callouts you see going around get information wrong constantly, usually so they can reframe any mistake someone’s done in the worst possible light.

You don’t have to. You can like feminine, masculine, gender neutral or androgynous, any kind of stuff that’s given a gendered label. And it should not mean anything about you.

I find the idea that someone is actually a woman, only because they like feminine stuff just.. incredibly reductive.

Like, assuming a GNC Cis Man is going to transition because he’s feminine? Even if it’s true a lot of trans women before their eggs cracked used to identify as GNC, it’s not true for everyone.

And honestly I think it’s even more offensive when this is directed towards transmascs and trans men who might be GNC, or still enjoy stuff that’s stereotyped as feminine from their childhood.

I’m saying this so it gets into my head, because my OCD has been putting all women into a special category of person that means they’re inherently better than me, on the basis of identity. And it has been giving me delusions, and I’ve been having mental breakdowns because I’m not a woman anymore.

When the truth is. Women are people. I don’t have to mourn not being a woman anymore, because my brain is telling me if I’m not a woman then I’m morally corrupt. Or morally bankrupt for my own existence.. when women, are people. And all people should be treated equally.

It’s not fair or rational to put any gender above another, anyone no matter their gender can be an awful person. It’s not a good thing to idolise a gender to the point of internalised transphobia at myself, or to take the words of every woman as more important than my own experiences as a trans person.

Women are people. People are animals. Human beings are flesh and blood, and we live under awful systems that incentivise inequality, but if my identity changes I am not accountable for the actions of other people. I haven’t.. done anything. I don’t even pass that well.

By my gender changing, I am not harming anyone. Transition is an inherently neutral action, it’s just living. It’s just growing up, and realising parts of yourself.

It's because a lot of transmascs, white transmascs in particular, experience a softening of how they're treated. They're not treated as men, they're treated as women who wear pants. So they're not demonized as strongly as trans women who have to deal with the brunt of transmisogyny.

But.. I think there's a problem with just the framing that this is the default position of how all transmascs are treated. Because there's just a wide variety of transphobia out there, it's not the universal experience. Not every transmasc or trans man is going to be treated like woman-lite in a way that's "respectful". Not every transmasc is going to have their gender validated over a trans woman's, or be accepted as a man in a world that would rather see him as a woman who's having a phase.

I just need to say, whenever I see a post where a trans woman says anything bad about trans men, it makes me have really bad intrusive thoughts. So.. this is just me trying to get them out somewhere and out of my head.

I don’t logically believe any of this when I’m in my right mind.