the authentic lesbian experience

A bunch of lesbians that wanted to exhale.

Read about our experience here:

However, there are two points I disagree with:

If someone asks us “Have you ever been confused?” we’ll more than likely say yeah (a big percentage of us anyway) at some point. How that confusion is processed, is based off of the individual woman or girl, but still it’s not in the sense that one would think. We aren’t confused because the only sexual attractions we’ve ever felt were towards our own sex.

I know many lesbians who were confused and either thought were bisexual or asexual or both! I thought I was bisexual for wanting to be a popular guy's bro in high school and wondered why I didn't want to kiss him, for example. As you said, that confusion didn't mean we wanted to try anything with guys.

“I’m a lesbian and I get obsessed with male characters really easily, and sometimes male celebrities.” I can’t speak for bisexual women or girls who refer to themselves as lesbians, but actual lesbians will never ever get obsessed with males period, whether they are fictitious or not.

Obsession can be 100% platonic. I once was obsessed with a character in a sports anime because I related to his personality and his narrative arc, so he made me want to do sports competitively again. I had a period of obsession with Sherlock Holmes in high school which made me buy tons of books of logic puzzles because I wanted to hone my deduction skills haha

The same can exist with celebrities. For example, I really love Ghibli movies. I went to art exhibitions, a Joe Hisaishi concert, queued for hours to see Isao Takahata at a premiere, watched documentaries about Hayao Miyazaki... You could say I'm fairly obsessed. That's still not attraction!

For the longest time I thought I was asexual, especially when I was a teenager. I didn’t want to go super in depth with the confusion part because it can manifest in many ways and can be a combination of many different feelings, too vast in my opinion to start down that road, so as to not dive deeply and try to explain a multitude of different reasons for feeling a multitude of different emotions, I decided to keep things as least confusing as possible.

The obsession I was talking about was romantic/different levels of attractions towards fake or real male characters, that’s why I didn’t mention the word platonic, because I was referencing the fakebians and their comments. I felt there really was no need to go into detail about a lesbian liking a male character(s) platonically because it should be plain to see that whenever/if ever we lookup to/admire a male fictitious or not that it would solely be platonic and nothing more than that.

I as well was a Sherlock Holmes fan as a teenager, so much so that I wanted to become a detective just like him, and solve cases to help people. There have been many male characters I’ve liked over the years, but he’s the only one that really stood out enough to the point where I wanted to mirror some of his ways in real life, but not a one time did I ever feel any kind of attractions whatsoever towards him (which is something that I stated in the document about him and other male characters). I like different male singers as well, but only a few I can say I’ve been an actual fan of. These particular women that I was referring to clearly had/has a romantic obsession for these males, not one of a platonic fan in the least. The lesbians who are actual platonic fans of male character(s), singers, etc. knew I wasn’t talking about them because of the few examples I was using and in the nature of how it was being used.

Hmm, I personally don’t feel like I said anything that would come off like a polilez because basically they say any and all women can “choose to be a lesbian” because they are mad at/furious with men/boys, for example. I didn’t say anything that would make me look like a misandrist either because not one time did I say I was disgusted by/hated/showed different levels of prejudice against/towards men/boys. I was simply stating in a matter of fact and direct way, that actual lesbians will never ever have nor feel any kind of sexual, romantic, or physical attractions when it comes to men/boys and that was it. If some readers take that as veering towards a form of misandria etc., then that’s on them not me. Also, I most definitely didn’t mention nor say anything about lesbians separating ourselves from the rest of society, and I never said that we only want to read books about women, watch tv shows/movies only about women, or only listen to women either.

It turns out that I was not frigid, unlovable, cold, childish, unwanted, a failed woman, forever alone, pitiful or ugly.

I was an outsider lost in the world, lost to my own people and unknown to those around me.

I wandered and yearned, bore those cruel labels others pushed on me, and for the longest time thought there was something wrong with me.

That was, until I found my way home. Home to myself, to the lesbian who I always was and just didn’t know it, to the woman who is not cold and unlovable, but burns bright and beautiful for all those other wandering women who were misplaced and longing for something they couldn’t name yet.