"when they say "only gold star lesbians are real lesbians", they're trying to distance themselves from lesbians who very much are not freethinkers, who very much do care about what other people think of them, who were not smart enough to see through religious indoctrination, who wanted other women to accept them so much they dated boys to fit in. women who were so consumed with longing to be Normal they would rather subject themselves to rape after rape from men that they hate just so her bestie isn't suspicious she's in love with her. women who would rather deal with the nuclear fallout of life-long substance abuse than fail to conform. martyrdom is a female trait, and so is blind conformity. lesbianism is just a sexual orientation. it doesn't mean you're a born rebel. it doesn't mean you're free from the most common female failures. there's only half as many lesbians as gay men because if they're not trapped by circumstances, they are trapped by their own fatal refusal to disobey.

until we all get real cool with that fact, every time a lesbian displeases us we'll be forced to scramble to prove she's secretly bisexual, because it is intolerable to the ego that someone in the In Group might have an opinion we dislike."

You can't convince me this isn't more propaganda to make goldstars see political lesbians as actual homosexuals and paint us as "privileged" or whatever. Yes, lesbian is a sexual orientation, that's why a lack of sexual and romantic attraction to men should be more than enough to not end up fucking or dating them. You don't don't have be a rebel to not fuck men as a woman. There are straight and bisexual women who make it to adulthood without even kissing a man but a conformist lesbian somehow will. Okay ☠️

So what I said was that I’m a new fan (since wicked era), and part of why I became interested in her and her work (like going and listening to her whole discography and learning more about her as a person and artist rather than just knowing her popular songs etc) was because I felt like I could increasingly see who she is and what she wants to do with her art…like she was really showing that unapologetically and unfiltered. With wicked, eternal sunshine, (and now petal), I just felt like it was like she had a lot of clarity about herself and where she wants to go as an artist. And I don’t understand longtime fans who want an “old” persona back, because I don’t actually think she has changed that much. Going through her discography, it’s clear to me she has always been into vintage aesthetics (specifically 50s and 60s aesthetics), musicals, film, etc. … it’s the same now but just matured and elevated. I think perhaps her and her work increasingly being more intimate and “real” clashes with people’s attachment to a “detached diva pop star goddess on a pedestal” that they’ve made her out to be, and they’re shocked that their idol is … a human? And I think to myself just let her be herself? She’s a human! Let her express herself, especially with her art…that’s kind of partially what art is about in the first place?? If you pay attention, she has had a very natural progression as an artist anyway in my opinion

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2015/01/04/372684438/if-you-shouldnt-call-it-the-third-world-what-should-you-call-it

and you then post about them and say "oh and she said she's from NY and had sex with a guy but calls herself a lesbian" they call it doxxing and stalking🥺LOL. chronically online retards who can't keep one inside thought or a real life friend to talk to want a consequence free internet in the big 2026. invest in a paper and pen journal. if you Publicly posted it yourself, it's not doxxing or stalking. going after your address or sleuthing, contacting your family etc is

i wouldn't be surprised if she sent that to you herself because she literally calls everyone who calls out her lack of logic with things She said in the past her "stalkers". the gaslighting is crazy. and also because she loves to use the ethnically middle eastern "ugh white girls" card when she's more privileged than just about any white girl from second world countries so who gives a shit. she can be proud of her culture of course but the anon trying to make you ""problematic"" by dropping that is a fucking clown

and speaking of doxxing i know for a fact you didn't even want to post asks without her username censored. why? because i sent one myself like 3 weeks ago. sorry for typing so heated but i can't stand that you're being bullied by lesbophobic insecure bihetties who can't keep one inside thought

Thank you, I appreciate it.

That’s lovely and i’m so happy for you!

They will “fight” against “homophobia” and “lesbophobia” but it’s very clear that in their heads, a homophobic person is someone who has a problem with same-sex relationships (which according to those bi people, they shouldn’t, since they themselves “could” be in one someday) and self-identification (because they think the words we came up with to refer to ourselves somehow exist in a vacuum). And a lesbophobic person is someone who is against bisexual women having a preference for or choosing to exclusively date women and therefore call themselves “lesbians”. Like, homophobia isn’t bad because it affects a particular group of people who just want and deserve to exist in peace, it’s bad because “everyone is bi deep down and anyone could be in a same-sex relationship, so we shouldn’t be against that”, y’know what I mean? They literally can’t fathom that homosexuality is a real thing and (unfortunately) comes with its specific type of oppression.