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While it might seem fun to fantasise about a man, to think about him non-stop, to imagine your life together what you’re actually doing is sending a very strong signal to the universe that energetically ‘I come second’. While this might sound extreme, hear me out... Your thoughts are no longer your own because you are thinking about him. You can’t focus on you because you are thinking about him. All of a sudden everything is about him. You wake up, you take a shower. Lost in the fantasy...He might be a man you’re talking to, dating, fucking, whatever the case my be. Obsessing over a man in thought is never something you should get comfortable with, giving your precious energy away to moments that will ….most likely never happen. And what for? What about thinking about you. Your dreams, passions? The vision for your day? You only have so much mental capacity each day. And getting lost in the fantasy is not the answer.

Create no fantasy of him. This is your lesson. Press pause. Literally press fucking pause. Eject the tape. Throw it out the window. This is YOUR movie. You get to take centre stage. You no longer have to play second to mentally overthinking men. 

Start choosing you. But you have to choose you in thought first and foremost. You can’t come second in thought. Your thinking has to be on you, about you. You can’t come second mentally because a man who is not your man is taking centre stage in your mind. Your thinking space is prime real estate. It needs YOU. YOU need to own that domain. Not think it’s cute to imagine the future, get all giddy and love sick. No. No no no. Bring it back to you. Your job now is to remain focused on you. That is it. Remain focused of you. Let go. Just let go. 

Is this message clear enough for you. Do you understand now how harmful it is to make a man first priority in your mind? 

I know that I am not meant to live a life of mediocrity, and I will be so educated that I will belong to high society, rightfully so. Call me arrogant all you want, I don't care, I will do whatever it takes to make me reach that goal.

What I find so funny is how whenever a woman utters that she has the same ambitious goals as me, she is met with miserable spiteful people starting their indoctrination that she should "stop being delusional and start being realistic".

Realistic? It is realistic. If other people can do it, why can't she? Is it wrong that a woman wants a relaxed life with no financial burdens? No worries whether she has enough to pay bills and other living costs? Is it so wrong that a woman wants to have enough money to afford luxury for herself and invest in her future? Or do you believe that women = struggle through life.

I am sick and tired of living a life of worries, and many other woman do too. I may be young, but I have lived in a immigrant household and saw how my parents had to scrape through life. I don't want to live like that. I am ambitious, and I do have the courage to be "delusional" enough to make it. If other people with the same, and even worse background as me could do it, so can I.

What does reinventing yourself mean?

Reinventing simply means identifying patterns, values, or activities that no longer serve you and changing them for better options. It can involve external characteristics, like job, hobbies, appearance, relationships, and location. True reinvention also happens inside, in how you think and behave. It will be different for everybody, which is what makes it so powerful.

Your next step should never be announced to those closest to you,unless it has been achieved.

People should watch you improving your life silently and keep giving them the shock factor.

Come out with a new body, new skill, new hair style, better makeup, a snatched new set of teeth, a new business venture, an upgraded home, a new car, a move to a new country/ city, pop out with something new and do not explain anything.

Shock them, be mysterious.

It’s easy to feel comfortable in the passenger seat,

but true peace comes when you’re the one behind the wheel.

Security is having cash in your bag, a full tank in your car,

and the freedom to move on your own terms.

Work for it. Earn more.

1. A degree which allows her to be financially independent.

2. Independent Real estate - it doesn't matter if the start is just a small (barely there) house. A place of your own is your sanctuary. Start with small steps but keep your eyes on the prize.

3. A deep sense of spirituality in a way that matters to her (no, not an organised religion, but a practice, a homecoming)

Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.

Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.

Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?

And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?

also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.

For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.

November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.

Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :

a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied

b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself

Absolutely not.

Ladies, the answer to this is always NO. Under no circumstances should you do any of this. Doesn't matter if the face isn't in the photos. Please have some common sense and self-respect, and avoid such things.

Why: you can never 100% trust someone that they won't do something shady and compromise your privacy, your public image, reputation, possibly even your entire career and life path years down the line. Because yes, that's (still) the reality of today's age when it comes to women. Remember the Jennifer Lawrence stunt?

Trust no one, never take such photos, stay smart, and focus on your career, not hormonal boys that just want another addition to bookmark into their photo collection that they'll snicker and gloat over with their group of friends (and not only).

PS: Yes, assume that they do always share. And also assume that anything you put online has the potential to be permanently stored on the internet and distributed.

Stay safe darlings.