brigand

San Francisco, 1996

You can hold the label confidently and still do “non-feminine” things, I love makeup but I don’t wear it everyday. Why? Because it’s important to let your skin have a break - for me especially my eyes are very sensitive and the on and off of mascara makes them red and itchy. Not wearing makeup one day doesn’t mean I’m not a high femme for that day, sometimes the most feminine and nurturing thing you can do is take care of yourself. I fucking hate sneakers because I think I’d be much more comfortable in a pair of heels or if I REALLY had to I could do a nice pair of flats with a bow BUT when I exercise my body I know that sneakers are the best choice and although it’s not my top choice taking care of myself is the most important thing I can do.

Being a high femme is not something you take on and off. I’ll confidently call myself a high femme with greasy hair, stained hello kitty pajamas and a bad attitude because labels are simply something you use to describe yourself, not a strict set of rules for your behaviour and interaction with the world.

I love being a high femme and it’s so confusing when I see people excluding themselves from that label, almost a fear of not being enough, pretty enough, feminine enough etc. I can promise you your local high femme (wherever they are) is not constantly sitting around in a full beat. They are not always wearing stilettos high enough to break a neck.