Basket Ace

The experience you're describing sounds like an Ace experience to me, but that's not the point. The point is:

You're allowed to identify yourself as Ace if you want to. That's it. All that's necessary for you to be ace- is for you to feel like that's the label for you.

Don't let anyone anyone tell you you must abide to a certain set of rules or check certain boxes in order to identify as Ace-or as anything for that matter. The only thing that matters is that you feel comfortable and happy with the labels you choose to use or not use.

Hi! First of all I want to start by saying I'm no authority, nor anyone is to tell you what to do with your body and sex life. Only do what feels right and positive for you.

In my opinion, having sex and being ace is a very personal decision. Every person has a different feeling towards sex, some people (aces, but not only) are sex positive, sex negative, sex repulsed, etc. Which means whether or not you feel sexual attractions, you can still want or not want to have sex.

I think you should ponder a bit on your feelings towards sex, and based on that decide if you wanna try it. And no matter what you decide, it doesn't influence whether you're ace or not. You can like sex and be asexual, and hate sex and be allo.

Most importantly remamber that you're not under any obligation to try sex, no matter your sexuality, and only experiment if you want to and feel it's right.

Had a bit of a mental health drop, and also took some time to ponder my sexuality too.

I'm now in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful girl and we even moved in together a while back! I'm very happy with my life right now and I felt like it was a good time to also go back to managing my loved blog.

I'm gonna be answering asks and messages again, and hopefully also posting some nice things.

I really wanted to thank all of you for sticking up with me and being patient with me ❤️

First of all I'd like to apologize for taking a thousand years to answer your ask 😅

What your friend said was pretty mean and invalidating. Laughing someone's coming out is a terrible thing to do and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Now, was it acephobic? Honestly idk. I myself have problems trying to figure out what counts as acephobia and what doesn't. But honestly? It doesn't matter. Accusing you of just wanting to be different (aka the age-old "you're just doing it for attention" shtick) is an ugly and hurtful thing to do and a better (or more knowledgeable) friend wouldn't have done it.

As for how to handle situations like this, you have a choice. You can either move on (ignore what happened), try to educate that person and explain to them what's wrong with what they said/ did and how it affected you, or you can cut ties (aka cut toxic people out of your life). It just really depends on how important the person is to you and how much mental capacity you have to put to this. For example, when a family member I care about said something aphobic I explained to them in detail why they're wrong and why it hurts me, bc I wanted to have a good relationship w them and decided to put some work into that. On the other hand, when an acquaintance was being aphobic towards me I just.... Decided not to interact w him. Bc I didn't care enough. So anyways it's your decision and really depands on what you choose to do.

But remamber, it's not your responsibility to educate ppl. If you do it, make sure it's bc you want to.

Sorry I haven't been active+replying lately, my mental health was acting up and I took some time off of everything, but I'm back now and hopefully I won't dissappear again lol

Thank you all for your support, it really means a lot an I really do love each one of y'all 💜✨💜