A’s Your Romantic

Almost everyone acts as if it's only lesbians who can be butches and even the lesbians who know that butch is not exclusive to them don't bother educating fellow lesbians. It's up to us and when we do try to educate others, we get harassed by terfs and exclusionists saying that we are "stealing lesbian culture" as if bisexuals weren't right beside yall helping build butch femme culture.

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anyway here is the link because i do not gatekeep:

where's the "do i really love them romantically? or did i just convince myself i do?

where's the "am i still really aromantic? what if it was just a phase? what if i'm normal, actually?"

where's the "what even is romantic love. what even is the difference being romantic love and platonic love. nothing is inherently romantic, it all depends on intent. but that can't be the only difference, can it? then people could just chose to be in love. but that's not how it works, is it?? "

where's the not being aro enough for aro spaces but being too aro for allo spaces

where's the "i keep falling for my friends and it keeps costing me friendships. help!"

where's the "what even is dating. how does that even work"

where's the not getting crushes. it's either completely fully in love or nothing

where's the being perfectly happy without a romantic partner, but also happy if you happen to have one

where's the needing unusually long to get over a relationship and detangle yourself

where's the "love at first sight is fake, it doesn't work like that"

where's the "i don't know you well enough yet to be romantically interested in you. i don't even know you well enough to know if i could be romantically interested in you"

where's the usual aro stuff. having difficulty with romantic relationships or situations without knowing why. not being able to relate when others talk about their crushes and relationships. advice always being either "talk about it" or "break up" if asked. feeling like there's something wrong with you bc you don't work like everyone else

demiromantic people are still aromantic. you can't use that as a cop out to write aro characters as if they're allo

your blorbo is still aromantic, so how would that color their relationships? how would that affect their daily life? do they struggle with feeling “greedy” because they can’t love their partner back the way their partner loves them? do they have a hard time with an allo partner because on a fundamental level they don’t quite understand what romance is like, even if they’re experiencing it? on the positive side; what societal boundaries of romance do they cast aside or embrace? how do they navigate a romantic relationship differently than their peers? if it’s an aro4aro partnership, how is it unique? how much does being aro define their relationship vs. just their own personal quirks? is that even a line that can be drawn?