the short of it, my lil bro broke my computer charger and i had to wait two or so weeks to get a new one ( the reason i came back here for a moment was bc of my phone ), but i got one just an hour ago and i'm here!
with that aside, let's talk about smth.
i don't understand fandoms being so against abuse not making someone a bad person.
when it comes to villains, their backstories are typically handed out
( either by the writers or the fans, or both ) to justify their actions.
but when it comes to heroes, that doesn't happen.
i don't see this just with official // commercialized media, i see this with other artists' OCs, too.
not gonna disclose who for their privacy, but people were going after an artist i recently followed for their dark-skinned OC ( who is the protagonist / hero of the artist's story ) "looking violent and restrained like an animal" when the OC in question was a victim of her circumstances. she was covered in blood from something painful she had to go through, and she was angry and hurt. that's apparently being "violent and restrained like an animal".
people were telling the artist that "well, it looks like that at first glance", as if it's the artist's responsibility to force their story into other people's faces and not the audience to actively interact and understand. if they really believed that the artist was racist.
so, now POC-coded characters can't be in vulnerable, gruesome situations without looking "violent"?
meanwhile their lighter-skinned OC received no such backlash, when she was actually violent.
even without the discussion of race, this logic applies to so many fandoms who think heroes aren't allowed to do wrong or make mistakes without being an irredeemable monster, while villains can do whatever they want because they're villains and don't deserve criticism because "tragic backstories".
another more familiar example:
Adora was called abusive for pushing Catra off the bed in "Taking Control". meanwhile, Catra was defended to the Nine Circles and back by fans when she committed universal genocide ( the Portal ) and abused Adora to the ground.
i don't think Adora was wrong for giving Catra barely a taste of her own medicine, but i can understand people who have differing view.
what i do think is wrong is people loving when Catra does these terrible, irreversible, irredeemable things, but hates when she gets called out for it and will act like it's a personal attack on them when people don't like her.
this goes into the belief that "female rage" is just for villains. it isn't.
this mindset is toxic and punishing. women, of any shape and color, of any background, should be allowed to be angry. people should be allowed to be angry.
Jax, because she's an antagonist, is allowed to do whatever she likes. she can mock, harass, assault, and whatever else, and that's expected and excused because she's an antagonist and "messy".
but Ragatha getting angry at Jax for ten seconds earns her being told to calm down ( Pomni ), getting called fake ( Jax ), and people hating her ( the fandom ), and Ragatha ends up apologizing.
people who hold these views, that heroes / protagonists can't be as messy, angry, or flawed as villains, especially female characters on both ends, are contributing to the idea that women in general cannot be flawed or they'll be villainized.
protagonists who aren't abusive or predators because of their backgrounds are not suddenly less valid than their antagonist counterparts.
there's proper criticism, then there's this.
you can't call Korra names for "breaking the Avatar cycle" ( when she didn't ), then turn around and call Azula a queen for manipulating and threatening Ty Lee ( setting her act on fire ) into joining her team.
you can't call Glimmer an asshole for telling Catra that Adora didn't run away from the Horde, but from her, then turn around and call Catra hot for belittling and degrading Adora so severely that Adora repeats her words to herself down the line.
you can't act like Ragatha is fake for being endlessly kind, when Jax has been fake the entire time out of her own volition.