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You're not a woman unless you want to be

Do you gender trans people correctly even when they're being absolutely terrible people? Do you refuse to use the r-slur against someone who suicide baited you but is neurodivergent? Do you refuse to snark at a mentally ill person who is being genuinely unpleasant, "go take your meds!"

Do you allow members of marginalized groups to be terrible people without judging their entire demographic for it? One of the most invisible yet vital forms of privilege is the right to be terrible people as an individual rather than as a group. Do you acknowledge that there are bad people in every group, that it doesn't make their group less worth fighting for? Or do you shake your head if you happen to get mistreated by some who belong to a group and insist the entire group is awful and not worth your allyship?

and People Don’t Talk About It Enough

Sometimes I wish people understood what it actually feels like to live with AUDHD the combination of Autism and ADHD. It’s not quirky, it’s not “cute,” and it’s definitely not just being distracted or socially awkward. It’s a daily battle inside your own mind, and most of the world never sees the internal exhaustion behind it.

Living with AUDHD means having a brain that can’t decide whether it wants absolute structure or total chaos. One moment you’re overstimulated to the point of shutting down, and the next moment you’re stuck in a spiral of hyperactivity and racing thoughts. You crave routine but get bored of it. You want to focus but your brain refuses to cooperate. You want calm, but everything feels too loud, too bright, too fast.

People see the outside the forgetfulness, the fidgeting, the sensitivity, the intense interests and they assume it’s manageable. But they don’t see the burnout that hits without warning. They don’t feel the sensory overload that makes small things feel unbearable. They don’t experience the guilt of wanting to do things but being unable to start, or the frustration of trying your absolute best while still being labeled “lazy,” “dramatic,” or “unmotivated.”

And the worst part is the loneliness. Because AUDHD often makes you feel “too much” for everyone. Too sensitive, too emotional, too intense, too overwhelmed. So you learn to mask. You pretend you’re fine. You try to act “normal,” even when your brain is screaming.

But here’s the truth: AUDHD is not a character flaw. It’s not a choice. It’s a reality that deserves understanding, compassion, and awareness. People who live with it are fighting battles every single day and doing it quietly.

I have no words for how disgusting this is. No words if I attempt to articulate anything about this same reproductive violence and rape I will go off for paragraphs but looking at this makes me nauseous and fume.

The justification (link) is "It wasn’t about trans men and if you can’t see that i’m afraid you’re stupid."

Just so people can block all the rape apologists

"you are illogical for talking about rape culture, it's actually a moral or ideological defect so I'm not going to listen to you, and I'm going to dehumanize you for it"

Hmm where havel heard this type of response before? Oh yeah, rape apologists

Apparently @/chhopsky (massive acc on twt btw) thinks you criticize rape jokes by ... Making rape jokes. Because rape jokes are okay if you're saying them ironically, y'all are just "confused" and "stupid"!!! And need it simply explained to you (: she "hopes this helps" (multiplied by who knows how many times she's spammed this at users) as there is absolutely no nuance in saying how things are fine so long as it's a criticism

like the above "joke" is bad regardless, for the reasons laid out. but this specifically references birth control as a form of pregnancy prevention. a core part of this "joke" is the idea of impregnating a man without his consent and then leaving with no concern for his well-being.

the only men that this could happen to are trans and intersex men. at this time a cis perisex man is never going to be vulnerable to that specific kind of violence, and there are thousands upon thousands of trans and intersex men who have already been violated like this.

when people make jokes like this, they are appropriating ACTUAL transmasc and intersex suffering to project into onto cis men in their revenge fantasy. it is an act of dissociating the actual lived and ERASED experiences of gender-marginalized men and making OUR oppression become associated with THE PEOPLE DOING THE OPPRESSING.

trans and intersex men's experiences with sexual violence and pregnancy are already erased in ways that further hurt them and contribute to their deaths. so when those experiences are ripped out of our mouths and away from the context our bodies, and projected lazily onto this oppositionally sexist revenge fantasy. all the insistence that "its not about trans men you guys!!!!" misses the point because this joke logically can't NOT be about trans and intersex men.