The Angry Feminist

is anyone else like… weeping right now

being told it’s normal if your clothes hurts you and you have to endure it

being told it’s normal if sex hurts you and you have to endure it

not finding basic information about your biology and sexual organs through most of your life

being told that pain is a normal part of your life

being told that if you are a “good girl” you’ll endure it without complaint

being told you should be grateful for the rights you have and finding out in the past you wouldn’t even have these rights

getting brutally shut down if you try to stand up for yourself

getting forced into a role of serving men because “it’s woman’s job”

having your labor dismissed as worthless and stupid 

but you have to keep doing it anyway or you’ll get punished

anything you do is considered worth less and generally dismissed

realizing men’s work is praised and glorified even when they do harmful and environmentally destructive work for selfish purposes

realizing you can’t do anything about it and feeling less worthy even when you do more work and more necessary and useful work

having your compassion used against you

having your energy and emotional labor used by men who demand you to listen to them and comfort them and stroke their ego

being laughed at and invalidated and called slurs and insults when you try to talk about your own problems

being called selfish, dramatic, crazy, delusional and damaged when you expect basic decency and compassion

being treated like you’re insane and hysteric if you display any kind of anger at how badly you’re being treated

feeling infuriated at double standards and for how harshly you’re judged and punished while men can get away with anything

doubting your own senses and considering if you really are crazy

being ignored as a human being, your intelligence dismissed, only thing that seems to have any worth is your body but you get shamed, objectified, sexualized, used, violated, predated on and hurt 

hating your body and wishing it was a different body, one that nobody would hurt and violate

- Having doctors and other health officials make medical decisions about your body that are predicated on the idea that you are a potential baby maker first and a person second, with bodily autonomy and a quality of life and everything.

- Having doctors dismiss your real medical issues because they assume you’re just reacting hysterically (as women do, you know). Suffering for a long time because you have trouble finding a doctor that takes your health seriously.

- Living in a society where the het sex culture is so misogynistic that it can be a genuine turn-off, but instead of society addressing the issue of misogyny and violence in our sex culture, society addressing it by shaming them and inventing medications to “fix” the fact that they don’t get off on incompetent or abusive sex.

- Seeing constant messaging about how you need to have certain painful and dangerous surgeries and other procedures done, not because they’re medically necessary but because the natural female body is considered disgusting, especially as it gets older. Nip this, tuck that, inject this poison into your face.

- Legitimately and personally worrying about whether your legal right to abortion will be taken away at any time. Even in supposedly progressive cultures it seems to take constant vigilance to maintain the rights we have.

There have been actual studies done that putting a man’s name on a resume instead of a woman causes hiring managers to ballpark a much higher salary offer, and a similar effect is seen with “white - sounding” names vs not. Women are often blamed for not negotiating but further studies have shown that women who negotiate as aggressively as men do not reap the same benefits and may even be penalized for being too “greedy” or “entitled”. This effect is again greatly magnified if the woman is not white.

fantasy novel blurb: “BUT WHEN A MYSTERIOUS BOY…”

dystopian novel blurb: “WHEN HER DESTINY COLLIDES WITH A BOY FROM ANOTHER CLASS…”

slice-of-life novel: “SHE AND THE BOY BECOME UNLIKELY FRIENDS… AND MORE”

quasi-literary novel: “SHE MUST NAVIGATE HER CHANGING WORLD AND HER CHANGING RELATIONSHIP WITH HER FRIEND WHO IS A BOY”

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