angelfocus

margaret atwood

the brontës (the complete works is a MASSIVE file fyi)

anne carson

hélène cixous

bell hooks

clarice lispector

audre lorde

virginia woolf

compilations

feminist theory

academic writing (both books and articles)

some reading i’d like to get round to

some interesting essays

misc articles on art

horror stories

short stories by women

donna tartt’s short stories

mascara lit reviews, personally want to read the china translational issue first

poetry foundation collections e.g. environment 

web comics! first on the list: on a sunbeam 

more 

99% Invisible episodes (design and architecture) 

‘articles of interest’ mini-podcast series on some fashion history

the met collection / british library collection of manuscripts etc / “go to the museum”

listen to berlin phil (currently free) / met opera 

practise drawing hands / faces 

5. Walk with your keys in your hands and keep a key between each finger

6. If they put you in the trunk kick out the headlights

E.g.

If your gut is telling you to cross the street or change your path, do it. Don’t risk it. Your body knows.

If you can, buy a large umbrella and walk holding it. Studies say that predators are less likely to attempt an attack on someone that could fight back. Keys around your knuckles is fine but you’ll need to get very close to do damage. Umbrellas are more precise.

Avoid wearing headphones if you are alone on an empty street. Look aware.

Again: Stay. Away. From. Walls.

Entering an uber alone? Call your father (or anyone you trust) and say “hey dad! Yep, I’m almost there, I’m sending you the route.” outloud. Then proceed to send them the route so they can follow the uber drive. This will most likely intimidate the predator.

If you see someone in an uncomfortable or possibly dangerous situation, walk up to them and say “Betty, oh my god, I haven’t seen you in so long!”. If she gets slightly confused, you can whisper and let her know you’re trying to help and that she should follow along. Walk together to another station or away from where you are. The man will most likely not follow. I have done this one 2 times and can be very helpful.

If you are unsure she needs help, you can pass her a note saying something like “hey, I noticed this man beside you is making you uncomfortable. If you’d like help, fake a sneeze right now and I will come up to you and pretend we are friends.” This is a long note, but its an example. Be discrete. If she follows along, proceed with the previous tip. This is helpful when you’re in a crowded train and you notice harassment.

1. First rinse your teeth with a fluoride mouthwash for at least one minute. Spit. Do not rinse with water.

2. Floss right after. Make sure to get in between every tooth and the corners of the gums. Spit. Do not rinse.

3. Brush your teeth like you regularly would.

4. Use a whitening mouthwash to finish up. Do not eat or drink anything for at least 30min after.

- An alcohol based mouthwash should only be used if your gums are prone to bleeding. Otherwise you can skip this step.

- Use dental floss (the string) > plastic pick. Dental floss is more flexible to get in between your teeth and bend to the shape of the tooth and hugging it effectively. But use whatever’s accessible to you. Personally, I use both.

- Replace your tooth brush every 3-4 months. Mold and bacteria love damp toothbrushes.

- Buy a soft bristle tooth brush. The brush hairs are finer and can get in between hard to reach places.

- Wait at least 15-30min after eating before brushing your teeth. Leftover acid from food in your mouth + abrasives = tooth erosion.

- Use a pea size amount of toothpaste. Can’t stress this enough but covering the entire toothbrush with toothpaste is excessive and unnecessary. Marketing companies show people using this much so that you’ll use up the product faster and buy more. When your a kid you use a tiny pea size but when your older you use a regular pea size which is about 7.5mm big. If you’re spitting out chunks of toothpaste, you’re using too much.

- Brush the roof of your mouth, gums, gum line, and the entirety of your tongue. Brush the back and sides of your tongue where they touch your teeth.

I think one of the most underrated flirting techniques is making eye contact and actually engaging with men. Society has conditioned women to avoid eye contact and engaging with men - admittedly, because men are creeps and it’s often a survival method. However, we have somewhat overdone it, and I find myself sometimes actively avoiding people around me. The good news is, once you begin to identify your mannerisms and that they’re not always necessary, you can begin to open yourself to flirting/opportunities.

Say you’re in a “safe space” in that you’re surrounded by people and you can count on the majority of them being “safe.” This scenario typically happens at specific events, but can also happen frequently on college campuses (libraries, cafes, etc.). Take a step back, and actually scan the room. Do it lazily and confidently - don’t pretend to be looking for anyone, just be taking it all in. You’ll find that men/boys our age are actually also relatively comfortable looking around a room (and most girls aren’t! lol)

ANYWAYS, if you happen to make eye contact with any guys, especially the cute ones, smile! Maintain the glance for a moment, give a half smile, and then keep looking around. That fleeting moment of eye contact that was paired with a positive response will ABSOLUTELY leave an impact on that guys mind. Some of the more confident ones will even see it as an opportunity to come over and strike up a conversation!!

Eye contact paired with a positive reaction is just so rare these days, men find it absolutely intoxicating and exhilarating.

here are my favourite, most positive quotes on loneliness:

“I think I’ve come to terms with the fact that there will always be a ribbon of loneliness running through who I am. But that’s why I want to do comedy, and why I want to connect with people. You can use that ribbon to be a part of a finer tapestry, or you can choke yourself out with it.”

— Jenny Slate (on which my loneliness tag is based)

“& remember, / loneliness is still time spent / with the world.”

— Ocean Vuong, “Someday I’ll Love Ocean Vuong”

“Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, / the world offers itself to your imagination, / calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting — / over and over announcing your place / in the family of things.”

— Mary Oliver, “Wild Geese”

“I have been trying, for some time now, to find dignity in my loneliness.”

— Maggie Nelson, Bluets

“I don’t believe the cure for loneliness is meeting someone, not necessarily. I think it’s about two things: learning how to befriend yourself and understanding that many of the things that seem to afflict us as individuals are in fact a result of larger forces of stigma and exclusion, which can and should be resisted.

Loneliness is personal, and it is also political. Loneliness is collective; it is a city. As to how to inhabit it, there are no rules and nor is there any need to feel shame, only to remember that the pursuit of individual happiness does not trump or excuse our obligations to each another. We are in this together, this accumulation of scars, this world of objects, this physical and temporary heaven that so often takes on the countenance of hell. What matters is kindness; what matters is solidarity. What matters is staying alert, staying open, because if we know anything from what has gone before us, it is that the time for feeling will not last.”

hi everyone! it’s been a while since i made a huge playlist masterpost, but i thought that right now when we’re all stuck inside wondering what to do with our time i would make a list of all my playlists. listening to music is so calming and definitely helps me pass the time…so enjoy! - cam

songs that remind me of a fashion show 

a mix of songs that remind me of driving down the coast 

a playlist dedicated to paris 

songs that inspire me 

a dreamy mix

songs to listen to when you feel carefree

a super fun workout/running playlist to keep you pumped up 

songs to listen to during golden hour 

a mix of songs to listen to on a sunny day 

a playlist full of songs that make me feel alive 

songs that remind me of my teenage years 

a study/coffee shop playlist to keep you calm 

songs to listen to on the weekend 

songs that make me feel like living in the moment 

a friday kinda mix !

songs that remind me of a warm spring evening 

a mix dedicated to nature 

my all-time favorite songs all in one playlist 

songs that remind me of flowers and sunshine 

a 12-hour long playlist of songs that make me feel nostalgic 

songs that remind me of going back to school 

my ultimate summertime playlist 

songs that make me feel like i’m in a movie 

upbeat songs to get ready to in the morning 

songs i’m currently loving & listening to right now

a playlist dedicated to italy and all its wonders 

songs that are soft and delicate 

a mix to listen to while watching the sunrise / sunset 

a playlist for a rainy and stormy day 

songs to listen to when you wake up ! 

another nature playlist because why not?! 

a monday playlist to make your monday more enjoyable 

my springtime playlist 

songs that are bittersweet 

my girl power anthems playlist 

for the daydreamers 

songs that remind me of the spirit of traveling & exploring 

a mix to listen to before bed 

songs to listen and dance to in your kitchen 

a super fun 70s playlist 

relaxing songs for a sunday 

songs that remind me of wintertime 

for people who love the east coast 

for people who love the west coast 

a mix of lo fi beats 

songs to listen to in your car at night 

fresh finds (new songs every monday!)

the ultimate sing along playlist 

an indie playlist 

the perfect road trip / daily commute mix 

a super studious playlist to keep you extra focused 

songs that remind me of the beach 

a mix of songs to listen to when you’re j chillin

songs that remind me of a trip to outer space !

listen to this when you’re in love 

songs for stargazing…

the perfect autumn playlist 

songs that make my heart flutter 

a mix of carefree & happy tunes 

the grooviest 80s playlist around 

a mix of golden oldies 

listen to this if you like rap / r&b 

another workout playlist !

a mix of fun, upbeat songs to dance to 

a playlist inspired by call me by your name

a coming of age playlist 

Using Dye: Most colours won’t show up like it would on blonde hair BUT reds and purples do give a cool undertone that shows up when in sunlight. Like a secret dye!

Always use more garlic than the recipe calls for

"Ehhh fuck it close enough" is a great measurement tool

Find like 5 recipes that you like, adjust them how you like them, make them until you hate them

Clean as you go

If a recipe is from a mommy blog, you will need more spices