Raindrops On Rooftops

we now have what didn’t exist then, which is popular scholarship on real trans men who were historical “women in disguise” and it turns out there IS a largely distinction we can draw between those who wanted to be identified as men and those for whom dressing as a man was a means to an end. and i didn’t get it at the time and i’m sure tamora pierce didn’t either but like the longing alana feels to wear dresses is so trans coded because her life would be so much easier if she actually were a trans man, if she could just hide that she is a woman forever and just galavant about as a knight as she wishes. in her writing, gender is something innate but also distinct from sex, and that is apparent 25 years before she ever featured a trans character in her worlds. tamora pierce is the author who wrote a story about a cis character where god herself had to come down and tell the mc that she cant hide her gender forever because she will make herself miserable, and it’s simply not who she is. and alanna discovering women warriors is an incredible parallel of the trans experience of discovering your real gender by learning about the trans community.

Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no one’s lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors

Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you don’t need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you don’t have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly

Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can

Aro and ace activism is community-building, it’s public events, it’s free social activities, it’s mutual aid, it’s activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner

Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves

obligatory separation for zygarde

Chandelure 🕯️🔮🖤

this particularly works with anything negative i’ve forecasted. “i woke up feeling like shit today, so my day is gonna suck” isn’t a particularly helpful thought, but “it’s a great day to be alive!!!!!” feels hollow and insincere when i have a pounding headache & am running on three hours of sleep

instead i’ll tell myself, “i really don’t feel good right now, but i’m open to the possibility that coffee and breakfast might perk me up a bit.” or “i’m in a lot of pain today, but i’m open to the possibility that my workday might still have fun parts despite that”